Walking me down the aisle

My 4 adult children will be walking me down to the front, but is there anything wrong with going against tradition and having your future husband walk with you so that together you come before the minister/priest/justice of peace? You come before him/her to declare your love and commitment to each other and everyone else is a witness to that declaration. Since your FH is the most important man in your life, it makes sense. It's just another way of looking at it. Just want to add that you don't need to be stressed and pushed into something you don't want just to please other people.

I would say mom I appreciate your opinion but let me remind you this is my wedding. You can walk down the aisle yourself or you can have your mom walk you down the aisle.

Remember (most people forget whose day it is) it YOUR wedding day.

You can include him by having him say a reading at the ceremony or giving a toast at the reception.

If you get pushback which you will. Tell her your biological father is not in the picture and she has been married 3 times and as a result the only man you have in your life is your future husband. The person walking you down the aisle is someone who has meant the most to you in your life it could be your mom, brother, anyone who you deem worthy. Someone you you have gotten to know over 2 years to me is not worthy of giving you away. As the previous step dads disappeared 10 years down the road you don't want to look back at pictures and wonder who that was.

Look at how you referred to him as "her husband" he is not your husband and you do not considered him a father figure or step dad.

Ask him to say a few words welcoming everyone at the reception and give a toast.

I'll be walking myself down the aisle. It's my second wedding. My father walked me down the aisle the first time but now we no longer speak because he always sides with his girlfriend about things rather than speaking to his family about issues. It's been frustrating. My mom and I have a good relationship but I just feel like I need to give myself away to him. I've been through a lot of mental hardships and had a hard time with the whole engagement thing due to my last marriage and past relationships and for me to be able to overcome those issues, be able to move forward and say yes to marrying him is a big accomplishment for me. My mom is engaged and I have known her fiancé for many years (even before her-- he's my ex boyfriends (from high school) moms ex husband.. it's complicated lol) but we don't have any kind of relationship at all so I would never ask him to walk me down the aisle.

Do what makes you feel comfortable. I like the idea of your moms husband walking down with her in front of you so he feels like he's a part of the day.

I am walking down the aisle with both my parents but my situation is different than yours. My only suggestion is that you could have your mom and her husband walk in just before you go and you could walk in yourself. Then he is involved as part of the "bridal party" but not specifically walking you down the aisle. You could explain it as wanting it to just be your moment.

Just a thought

I suggest you do what feels right to you...and only you! No one can tell you how to feel and at the end of the day, this day is about you and your FH. My parents are divorced and my mom made mention of her wanting to walk me down the aisle with my dad...I quickly told her that I only wanted my dad to walk me down the aisle. She tried to act upset, but with her, it was just a power struggle and quickly got over it.

Seems like there is a ton of stress surrounding this, so my suggestion would be to let your mom and her husband walk in together and walk in yourself, or just walk in with your mother. Old school traditions are ever evolving and your happiness trumps everyone on this day! I'm sure your mother knows how you feel, so it would be unfair of her to force that on you. Best of luck on this!

I'm actually going to be walking myself down the isle. I feel like this way there's no jealousy/resentment because someone else other than my dad has the job. If you're not comfortable with it - I really wouldn't let him do it. Especially since he's not biological, it could end up in a situation like your past step dads, where in the future you have no contact with him. If your mom is insisting that he needs a special part in your wedding, maybe you could do a father-daughter type dance with him? That way he still feels included in a special way, but you don't feel uncomfortable having him walk you down the isle.

Let us know what you go with! My father situation has actually been the biggest stress inducer in my wedding planning, and I love hearing other peoples solutions/situations.