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Honeylie
Frequent user August 2021 Quebec

Walking down the aisle...alone.

Honeylie, on January 13, 2020 at 08:49 Posted in Wedding ceremony 0 22

Hello WeddingWire Fam!

I have been receiving a lot of pressure recently about who will walk me down the aisle.

I never met my biological father, and I am no longer on speaking terms with my mother (7 years now).

I do not mind walking down the aisle alone, however a lot of the people I mention this to think it is "sad". They suggest I walk down with one of my Bridesmaids or a brother of a friend.


I would love to get outside, non-biased input on this.


Thank you!

- H Smiley heart


22 Comments

Latest activity by Maria, on January 19, 2020 at 09:48
  • Maria
    Newbie February 2025 Ontario
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    I definitely think it is OK to walk by yourself! Both my parents are going to be at our wedding, but I think I'm walking down alone too -- I've never been one for the idea of being "given away," it seems outdated and patriarchal. You are choosing to be with the one you love! That's never sad!

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  • Giada
    Newbie September 2025 Alberta
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    I think it's totally okay to walk. down by yourself, it's your wedding day and as long as you're happy you're good Smiley smile


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  • Megan
    Curious July 2020 British Columbia
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    Walking down the isle by yourself is totally okay! Id only suggest a sibling or a friend if you are EXTREMELY close with them (like to the point where youd put them down as an emergency contact)

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  • Gloria
    Expert October 2022 Ontario
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    This is your day so it’s all about what YOU feel comfortable with... if you do end up feeling that you want to ask someone, you can even ask your FHs family if you are super close with them.
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  • Kelly
    Curious February 2020 British Columbia
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    Walking down the aisle alone isn't sad at all - it's an assertion of independence! The "tradition" is from a patriarchal society where women were considered property and "given" away from the father to the husband which doesn't apply to present day society. I have a good relationship with my parents but I'm not planning on having my dad walk me down the aisle because I think the tradition is kind of outdated and sexist.


    Have you considered having you and your fiance walk down together if you don't want to walk down alone? That's what we're planning on doing.

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  • Ashley
    VIP August 2020 Ontario
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    Do not feel sad walking down alone. ive seen brides walk down the isle alone and ALL the attention is on them and they have amazing photos!! everyone will be smiling and clappping. im thinking about walking down the isle alone cuz i want everyone to loook at ONLY me LOL!!! i say do it!!!! forget the traditions MAKE YOUR OWN TRADITIONS Smiley heart

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  • Honeylie
    Frequent user August 2021 Quebec
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    Thank you everyone who put your input!! You are all beautiful, and I will definitely feel beautiful walking down the aisle alone Smiley heart

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  • Amelia
    Master October 2020 New Brunswick
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    I agree with the group, it's not sad to walk yourself down the aisle.
    I'm tired of people being so opinionated about "traditions" with weddings. You don't need to be "given away" because you aren't property, you don't need an escort to make sure you don't bolt, and as others have said all eyes should be on you so don't share that spotlight unless you want to.
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  • Amanda
    Devoted July 2020 Ontario
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    What they said!


    I had a childhood friend walk down the aisle alone. Actually, I think she ran down the aisle 😁. Do what makes YOU happy!
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  • Rayanne
    Master June 2022 Ontario
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    This is the perfect reply
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  • Andrea
    Devoted January 2021 Ontario
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    For me, I'm not terribly close with my dad. I do love him but he hasn't always been there for me and I do not want him to walk me down the aisle. It just feels really uncomfortable for me to think about. I love my mom, but once again, I don't want to walk down the aisle with her either. I've been independent from my mom for years and I've established a life with my fiance and our two daughters. The only way I see acceptable for ME is to walk down the aisle alone, into the arms of my soulmate. Smiley heart

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  • Rayanne
    Master June 2022 Ontario
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    Honestly I had every intention of walking down the aisle myself. I have no relationship with my biological father and I just saw myself going dow alone. There is actually no one "giving" me away. I'm a grown woman and I make my own choices. I have considered asking my step father because it would make my mom happy but I told her I would not have him walk with me if she did not also walk with me. So i am still up in the air about it. I think whatever works for you is the best choice.
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  • Vinod
    Top August 2017 Ontario
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    Your decision to walk alone is fine as long as others think the opposite. Disregard their opinion as they feel you need to have someone, yet you don't feel that way inside. Go about your plan and stick to your heart knowing you have this down and not looking back on this decision.

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  • Geneviève
    VIP September 2020 Ontario
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    Just like everyone else says, if you want to do it alone, do it! I know what you mean though, families love giving unsolicited opinions just about anything so take it with a grain of salt. You can do whatever you like on the day of.
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  • M
    Frequent user May 2021 Ontario
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    Hi H!


    First of all, I want to give outsider input that anyone who comments on you being walked or not walked down the aisle is completely unjustified, as it is none of their business, so if you feel a little offended about that, you're in the right, because that's just not appropriate!! So i just wanted to validate that for you.


    If you want to walk down the aisle alone WALK DOWN THE DAMN AISLE ALONE!!! This is YOUR day. These are YOUR choices. From someone who also has a vey broken family, you have to make the choices that are right for you.


    It is not "sad" to walk down the aisle alone. It is powerful. You are powerful and strong and don't need anyone to give you away if you don't have a desire to do so. I don't think it's sad at all, I think it could be a really beautiful moment. I'm a diva so I would love an "all eyes on me" moment like that!


    All that to say: make your own choices, surround yourself with people who are going to build you up, prepare yourself for the emotions that you might feel, and go be beautiful and shining on your big day!


    All my love Smiley heart

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  • Tori
    Top October 2019 Manitoba
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    Nope! I think you should do what you are most comfortable. For me, I always pictured being walked down the aisle by my Dad. Then when it came to it, I walked with both my Mom and Dad! Why? Because she had just as much to do with who I am and how I became the person I am today. And had I not had my Mom or Dad around - I for sure would have asked my Sister to walk me down the aisle.

    This isn't how everybody see's it though - and if it's not something that you have always wanted or pictured then you shouldn't feel like you have to.

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  • Honeylie
    Frequent user August 2021 Quebec
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    It is ridiculous! Thanks Michelle

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  • Honeylie
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    I did not think of that! Especially in my case I don't want the focus to be on "who is that walking her down the aisle??" Smiley shame Thank you

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  • Honeylie
    Frequent user August 2021 Quebec
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    I love this ! Thank you Samantha. I will definitely feel proud walking down the aisle Smiley heart

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  • Samantha
    Super June 2021 Ontario
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    It's not sad at all! I considered walking myself down the aisle at first because I've always thought of myself as a very independent person and I don't like relying on other people in certain aspects of my life. But that's not the way it worked out for me in the end, which I'm totally fine with. But for brides that do walk themselves, I think it gives them a very proud and confident look that speaks volumes of who they really are as strong women. So don't feel pressured by what others think, and own that solo walk!

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  • Natasha
    Devoted May 2021 Ontario
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    Not sad at all! Im actually choosing to walk down alone despite having family offer. Wayyy more my speed.


    Sometimes you can’t even see the bride when she’s being walked down by one person let alone when they are being walked down by two people.
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  • Michelle
    Curious October 2020 Ontario
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    The bride walking alone is totally one of the accepted options. Often mature brides who don’t feel they are being “given away” by their father. So go for it. It’s your day and you can be the center of attention. The idea that you need an escort to not appear sad and weak and ridiculous.
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