Uninvite a guest?

You seem settled with the answer to a limit yet not fully. If you feel that you want her there attending, leave it as it as with 2 guests.

If not happy about this whole situation and FH will not be as excited or happy for her being there and you want him to know your on the same page, still have her not attend and this way it becomes less troublesome.

Be happy and don't have anyone there you feel will make things go downhill.

As someone who's dealt with similar drama in my life, I would un-invite, especially since your wedding is small and intimate. Back in university, I had a "friend" sit me down after I broke up with my ex and told me I was being selfish, manipulative, and ruining my ex's life and my own. Haven't talked since. I was also told to get over a car crash that gave me whiplash - but that's another story all together.

Just know, that any relationship you have with this person, it'll be done by un-inviting her, which is probably for the best IMO. If she brought up her concerns when you started dating your FH, that makes more sense than two weeks before the wedding. She and her husband seem toxic to you and your FH and I think you'd both be better off w/o them!

I am having a very similar situation except it is with my FH mother and younger sister, mom doesn't like us together and sister is all about causing drama. We ( FH and I ) are sitting down with his mom this weekend to talk about these issues, I don't want any negativity there. I hope we can resolve the issues but I'm not holding my breath.

Talk to your friend face to face with her husband, who knows maybe they will have a change of heart.

I say go for go for it to uninvite your guest and husband to attend. They don't feel the same about you as they have before. Its a shame that one member of the family has so much bad vibes towards you and FH to be. I wouldn't call to let her know they are uninvited, rather email.

Cut the connection off for good and not have anything to do with them even if you see them in future gatherings.

I agree, as much as negative energy is unwanted - maybe you could just ask that if her husband feels this way you would really appreciate if only she attended. I would express my concern but over something like this I wouldn't uninvite them.

I would uninvite for sure. Whether you think they will cause drama or not - you still shouldn't have to spend a second worrying about that on your wedding day (or any other day in your life).. I would say it's not worth the risk. You don't care to have her there, she doesn't support you and hates your fiance... I'd say it's a no brainer.

I agree with Erin... that's something I cannot imagine being easy in any way to do but it seems necessary.... like who writes a letter to explain what you're doing wrong in life?!?!?!? And as a friend too???? I wouldn't accept that if it was from my own Mother who would be one of the only people who i would allow to put in her 2 cents on my life...

Wow this is a level of drama I cannot even comprehend. Maybe, keep them on the guest list but if anything negative on the day of your wedding arises plan to have someone be able to escort them if needed? Though that might cause a scene too... I just worry if you un-invite them they'll get even more upset and come crash the wedding anyways... I'm so sorry you have to deal with this.

Maybe they won't bring drama to the wedding? My brother was once best man at his friends wedding and wrote the groom a similar letter outlining why he shouldn't marry his bride. He stepped down as best man and attended as a guest, the wedding went on, and somehow the friendship continued. If she says she wants to be there to support you, let her. Things do change and maybe somewhere down the line she will realize that she made a mistake.