Two Ceremonies?

Putting the 2 ceremonies on two separate weekends would be even better. Brides need time to recuperate!

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I agree with this and love the idea to add some other traditions into the day!

I have to agree with your fiance on this one. This will also take up a lot of time on your wedding day. You'll be rushing around, hair and make-up could be damaged from hugging guests, running around, emotions. You'll be exhausted and your second service may suffer because of this. One of my girlfriends had her bachelorette party with men and women invited as we have a 50/50 group. It was the most fun I've ever had at a bachelorette party. My fiance and I are doing this next year as well (well, a white water rafting trip with everyone). Perhaps you can celebrate with your work friends some other way, but ultimately it's up to you as a couple.

I must agree with Erin. Two ceremonies on the same day is pushing it. You'll be exhausted. I'm not sure if I'd want to repeat my vows twice in the same day so I do agree with your finance on that matter. There are many other ceremonies that you could partake in without the vows again. There is the unity candle ceremony, the sand ceremony, the jumping over a broom ceremony, and so many others. Just google wedding ceremonies. Would you consider doing something like that for your friends and coworkers? I would keep the vows for the intimate ceremony with your grandmother present.

What you could do is throw a Jack&Jill type party, you don't have to incorporate the fundraising part of it if you don't want to but it could be a good chance to get everyone together!

I think two ceremonies in one day might be a little much. You guys are going to have to get a very early start if you want to have 2 ceremonies, a reception, face time with your guests, and photos. Don't forget travel time too. It is nice that you want to include everyone in your special day but it might be worth thinking about doing it on 2 different days.