Trouble giving up control

Giving up control is the hardest thing to do since we want to know whata happening and whats being planned.

I had full control of the wedding as my family didn't have to do much and offered to pay for the centerpieces and my outfits.

The buck and buck was taken care by the girls at husbands workplace and had to wait until the event ti see it done. As the same for the MOHs to know whats happening for the wedding until the last 2 months.

Sooooo I’m completely in control of my bridal shower and bachelorette party since my sister is planning both. She’s been coming to me for suggestions and I’m very vocal about what I want. I’d hate to not know what’s happening... I love that control too!

I have had a lot of trouble letting go of control for wedding planning stuff.... when my FH takes tasks it takes a looooooot of me to step back (it doesnt always work and I end up doing things and feel bad) I booked my bachelorette weekend away at Blue Mountain but I am not doing anything else! I promise hahha! I have also started designing things for my bridal shower just for fun hahah!

I'm the same! When I first started planning, I didn't care about giving up control and I was more go with the flow.

Now, I've etched into minor bridezilla territory. I want to plan every single detail of anything wedding related. I'm also too curious for my own good - I need to know what's happening!

I normally have a very difficult time giving up control. especially because I am the planner of all of my friends.

I'm not doing a shower. but with my bach. I shockingly haven't had any issues giving up control. now granted. i know that they have just started planning. so that may change. But I trust my bridesmaids with everything. I did give them some guidelines on what I want/like. and I mean they are very loose guidelines. I said, not a ton of penis paraphernalia everywhere, make it affordable for everyone, if it involves a trip let me help chip in, and I am picking my best friend/MOH up from the airport (I haven't seen her since her wedding 6 years ago...better believe I am getting her).

I’m the same way, but I think this time

around I’m forcing myself to like the personal adventure of just letting go and letting them figure it out. I’m here to help wherever I can but really just tell me where I have to be and when. Other than no strippers/penis straws etc/clubbing etc, I’m good!

I completely agree with you. My step mom is planning my bridal shower, and is just doing our side of the family. I know it will be great, and I have taken a step back from anything (aside from helping find some prizes). I know that one will be great. I am just curious to see if my FMIL will plan anything for their side of the family, but again I am not supposed to be planning that so I am trying really hard to not plan it.

My in laws are also supposed to be taking care of the rehearsal dinner, but i have this gut feeling that I am going to be planning it.

Oh I completely understand. I LOVE control. Maybe to help put you at ease you could make a list of what you would like? Like food = something like ?, decor = maybe ? colour, etc.

It doesn't mean that they will use it but I know for me it helps when I get lied to. Lol in the sense that when I'm feeling like I don't have control I get my FH to just lie to me as it will comfort me. Gotta love a good false sense of security! haha

Yes I have trouble giving up control when it comes to planning. This is one of the reasons I'm happy not having a bridal party. I know eventually I will have to delegate tasks to people because I can't do everything myself and other people will want to help, but it is hard for me to do so.