So I have a situation... One of my bridesmaids is exhibiting some toxic behaviours and I want to know if I should absolutely cut her out of my wedding party or just stick it out. I'm just feeling really torn because I know it will hurt her.
For some context, I have been friends on and off with this girl for about 4 years. About a year or so ago I cut her off because she was being toxic, overbearing, and it was taking a toll on my mental health. It's kind of a long story but I have always felt deep down that she is not a "real friend". Anyways, fast forward and I reach out to her again to apologize and rekindle the friendship because I felt like it was the right thing to do.
Back to the present... I've asked her to be my bridesmaid and she's really driven a wedge between the rest of my bridal party. My MOH has been planning my bachelorette party and this girl gets up in arms with my MOH arguing that it's "too expensive" , or "I don't want to do that" and "I don't agree that I should have to help pay for any of the bride's expenses for the bachelorette party" and she's disregarding what I would like to do for the party (the cost would have been $290 which is quite reasonable to save up in 5 months given that she has a job). This girl has also been messaging my other bridesmaids (I'm not sure exactly what she's said to them) bad-mouthing my MOH because she has said some bad things about her to me and she's always hated her (might I also mention that the MOH is my SISTER who is also my BEST FRIEND). So I ended up cancelling all plans for my bachelorette party because my bridesmaids can't get along because of her. And now she wants us to have a party WITHOUT my MOH which doesn't sit right with me at all.
So.. is it reasonable to kick her off? And I know that by doing so I will probably also end the friendship for good.. it's just a really hard thing to do, you know? What would YOU do in this situation? Should I bother talking to her and getting her to fix her attitude? I don't know but I feel like it's a lost cause..