Thank you cards - addressing parents

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We ended up writing mom and dad lol but wrote something about how the in-law was now official!

Write what you feel comfy with!! i would probably write something funny on my inlaws like hello my offical mother in law or something like that!

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I tend to overthink things, which is why I'm glad the community exists, thanks!

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Great idea, thanks!

Now that your married, doesn’t matter. Don’t overthink it. You now have more parents and in writing, you should always address them and mom and dad when you are both signing. If it was a card just from you, you could address them however.

I would put mom and dad on your parents and sign your name first and do the reverse their dad

View quoted message Lol I think that’s what we’ll do! We wrote Grandma for our only living grandparent and it’ll make things easier.

I have the same issue - I don't call his parents Mom or Dad, and he doesn't call my parents Mom or Dad but I think we'll address each other families how each of us would normally address them Mom/Dad, Aunt/Uncle, Grandma/Grandpa. I think it's easier and heck you're married so it's kind of official now!! lol

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Lol! I have a few weddings this and next year so I'll probably be around to ask questions on behalf of some brides (I've bugged them about joining lol).

I've reduced my time on here to weekly vs daily but I like popping in to see how people are doing!

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Thanks Lisa! I've been referred to as daughter by my FIL many times now so I doubt it'll feel weird to call him dad. My brain is just adjusting lol

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This is true, just trying to wrap my brain around it now lol

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Lmao all my friends bug me too "when are you going to stop going on there"??? idk man, I need to make sure I stay #1 ranked! I'm way too competitive... Might die down after I post our honeymoon pics but even then it's nice to give input to others who are trying to find their way on here!

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Ah, I see - I think what I would personally do is write it from you (so use whatever terms you refer to each person as) and even though it's signed by both of you they will almost certainly know that you were the one that wrote it... Not sure if that's what etiquette would state but it's what I would do.

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You two will have families together now and having two sets of parents isn't as weird anymore. Its the same when being engaged and as getting married to feel towards them as their children. It comes when each of you enter each others lives and connection as a married couple.

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So far, I've been writing all the thank you cards, but I should have extras so could send parents 2 cards! They are also big enough that we could each write a blurb on each.

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Both DH and I were stumped so he told me to ask "that wedding forum you're still addicted to" lol #noshame!

Love how you snuck the Neu of Neuhauser in there! I think I'm just gonna do Mom and Dad, make it more personal/quit overthinking it!

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We are putting names on the mailing label, but just writing Dear so and so is what's tripping me up.

As I mentioned, both sets of parents think of the "in-law" as daughter/son so I don't think it'd be too weird to write mom and dad for both.

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That is funny!

I don't want to write the thank you cards as Mom/Dawn and Dad/Phil so I'm leaning towards just saying mom and dad. If my DH was just talking to my parents he'd call them by name but since the cards are both of us, it's odd for me to call my parents by their names.

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That could work, make my DH write at least 1 card lol!

We're in the same boat, if we address both as mom and dad, no one would notice, it might be odd with names.

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I'm writing all the thank yous since my writing is nicer than DH and he's not one for words - he would just write: thank you for coming and your generous gift, whereas I write more and personalize when I can.

I would each write a little tank you and enclose them in the same card, or divide the writing space in the card so you can each use the names or titles you like.

It's the same way with our parents - I call mine Mom and Dad and he calls his Mom and Dad, and of course we call each others parents by their first names.

I would say to not over think it and just write Mom and Dad either way and then when you put your names at the bottom (assuming you are), write Love, Your Son and *Neu* Daughter in-law OR Love, Your Daughter and *Neu* Son in-law.

My husband doesn't like calling his in laws as mom and dad all the time though they call him by his name. I call my in laws by their names and his aunt and uncle in front of it for respect. I have been brought up to respect elders as they are my own relatives.

As for the names, personalize the names though you may get confused which mom and dad is being given the card on the outside label. Inside, you can put mom and dad so they feel that is how you look at them as your own parents.

If only my husbands parents' were alive, I would be calling them the same as I would be their son too.

FH and I labelled his parents' Christmas gifts as Mom/Angie and Dad/Bill, which they chuckled at lol. But asking is probably your best bet if you're not sure - go with what you and they are comfortable with!

That's exactly how FH and I are with our parents and in-laws too, so I feel like we'll have the same conundrum! I think only for our parent's thank you cards, we'll each write our own little blurbs so we can both give thanks in our own words, so he'll address his own parents as mom and dad while I'll address them by their names and vice versa for mine. But I also think both our parents wouldn't bat an eye if we both just went with Mom and Dad since we're all so close.

When we did our thank yous, he wrote the ones that were more "his people" and I wrote for mine. We signed from both of us in all cases, but they were addressed to whatever terms the "writer" of the card refers to the people as (hope that makes sense). Everyone will know that they are written by one person but addressed to both, so it kind of covers all bases that way.