Surprise Bridal Shower

Hi Margaret!

So sweet your Mom has planned a surprise shower. Does she know that you know?!

I second everything the previous posters said! People will know the wedding is in three weeks, and if they choose to come to the shower knowing they won't be at the wedding, I wouldn't worry about any issues. Interact with them like you always would!

Definitely send out thank you cards to everyone, and I love Tori's idea of adding a photo from the wedding day of you and your FS

Just 15 days left, so exciting! Have you any wedding planning bits left to do?

Thanks!Makes me feel better. We'll definitely send out thank you cards afterwards and adding a picture is great idea!

I wouldn't worry at all!! When it comes to small weddings there is bound to be family and friends that want to be included in some way or another that this is the perfect opportunity!!

If I wasn't invited to the wedding and it was a large 250+ person wedding then I would be offended - but if it was 100 people or less roughly, I would completely understand and want to come to the wedding shower!!

Just make sure that you send thank you cards to them and then maybe after you get married send out some cards in the mail with a picture of you and your new hubby/wifey (not sure as you didn't mention) on it to announce your marriage!

I think because its a surprise shower that you aren't planning, then there isn't any need to feel super awkward. Its so close to the wedding so they probably know they aren't invited. If they ask about the wedding, be honest, tell them you kept it super small.

Send them a really nice thank you card afterwards.

They would already now they aren't invited. They won't cause issues with this! Don't worry, if they ask questions about if your excited and all that then just answer. If they try to guilt stick to your guns. They honestly shouldn't and should respect. They will more likely ask about babies after and want to see the photo's after.