Stag and Doe

I don't think there's any problem with that! Do whatever timeline works for you, enjoy it and have fun! Remember its your time to shine!!

We are getting married in September and just had our stag and doe this past Saturday! It was an amazing turn out and we did so much better than we could have imagined! I didn't want one to begin with but we ended up making over 6,000 profit! Everyone had such a great time!!!

I'm planning on doing my buck and doe next June or July and we're getting married next September, so that doesn't seem too bad to me. Do whatever timeline makes the most sense to you and don't stress yourself out!

Man, I really wish Buck n Doe's were a thing here in Alberta

I'm originally from rural Ontario and couples are able to make a really decent chunk of money for their wedding from these things.. but literally NO ONE here has ever even heard of them and when I explain what one is people think it's absurd (essentially, getting your community to pay for your wedding). I totally understand why it sounds tacky to people who didn't grow up with that tradition, and obviously, I would not even dream of doing one here because of that, but damn it sure would be nice! lol

I’m doing our Social (stag and doe) in April getting married in September. I don’t think anyone would judge regardless of when you do the social. I know for us there will be friends of friends of friends selling tickets and coming, it’s a party with cheap drinks and something to do on a Saturday night!

I think it's a little too close to the wedding, in terms of trying to raise funds and then receiving gifts again a few months later...

Can you make it slightly earlier? Like a "post-Christmas holiday" party in January, or maybe do a Valentine's themed party mid February... suitable for a wedding, and then people have an outing to go to around V-Day, as well as you being able to do some fundraising?

In terms of people wondering "why you're doing it"... you'd think having 2 kids as a young couple would be your answer right there... haha. People who love you and know you would hopefully feel good about helping you out, while also getting a night out and having fun!

I think my only worry about the short timeline would be how much guests are then spending on the wedding in such a short time. If there is a stag and doe, shower, wedding gifts, possibly travel for the wedding it is a lot of money as a guest in a short period of time.

Do you live somewhere where the social is just attended by close family and friends? The entire community? People who won’t even know you but will come out for a fun night of games, drinks, and dancing? i would say no matter what do one if it’s what you both want but make sure the cost of running the event is in proportion to expected attendance.

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Thanks for your response!
I wouldn't think so at all! I actually help plan and donate prizes to entice the guests. It is more of a social thing and raise funds but the guests would pay for a ticket and food would be included - booze is extra.

I like your advice! I agree. I am just worried, that's all. On my side, we do stag and does - none of my sisters have actually had a shower. SO my side is used to it. more his

Is a stag and doe like a wedding shower? or is it more like a social? If you would be getting presents like a shower then you many get some family members thinking that it's not needed but if it is more like a social and the point of it is to raise money for the wedding then they have nothing to scoff at. If they are upset that you are trying to raise money then they clearly haven't looked at the price of weddings nowadays never mind the fact that you are already paying $$ for having kids who I'm sure are in activities and daycare etc.

My advice - let the haters hate. If they don't like that you are having a stag and doe - they don't have to come. Also try and consider what you would think if you had friends that were to do this. Would you think that it's stupid of them to hold a stag and doe? (My guess is probably not.)