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Carine
Featured September 2023 Ontario

Speeches?

Carine, on June 22, 2022 at 13:51 Posted in Wedding reception 0 26
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I was at my good friends wedding last Saturday and I found the dinner portion long. Between every course they would have someone say a speech, most of them we could not understand because they mumbled in the mic or the kids screaming and running around in the background.

To avoid our guest being bored would you save speeches for after dinner during cake?

Limit the amount of people saying a speech?

Let the bridal party know to keep it short?

Who are you allowing to say say a speech on your special day, looking for ideas.

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  • Carine
    Featured September 2023 Ontario
    Carine ·
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    True. I feel 2 min a person 10 min in between and I am not forcing anyone to do it, if my bridal party wants to do it fine if not I'm okay with that.

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  • Rebecca
    Devoted October 2023 Newfoundland and Labrador
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    For speeches were only having the parents x3 Sets , MOH & Best man 5- 7 minutes max

    plus our welcome speech and thank you will be combined into one .

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  • Hank
    Featured September 2021 Ontario
    Hank ·
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    I highly recommend not to lump all your speeches together. If you were impatient while they were spread out throughout dinner service, imagine guests having to sit through all of them at once without any opportunity to breathe and chat with one another. Even 20 minutes will feel like forever.

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  • Carine
    Featured September 2023 Ontario
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    I like speeches at weddings but when they are 30 min max, not having us wait and listen between each meal gets long.

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  • Carine
    Featured September 2023 Ontario
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    I don't get hangry, it was funny watching the people at my table get hangry though. Just my butt was so sore and just uncomfortable to sit for so long.

    So I think I'll do speeches while dinner is being served and keep it to a max of 2 min per person.

    Besides rather be mingling and partying then spend most of my time at dinner.

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  • Carine
    Featured September 2023 Ontario
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    On a good note you are finally married and get to enjoy your time as husband and wife and it was all worth it!

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  • Carine
    Featured September 2023 Ontario
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    During dinner is great, they had their bridal party do speeches in-between meals so we only got to eat once the first group did their speeches, then speech then meal my butt was hurting so bad I was looking forward to dancing. lol

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  • Alyx
    Featured September 2022 Alberta
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    Oh and my fiancé and I are doing a thank you speech right after we cut the cake
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  • Alyx
    Featured September 2022 Alberta
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    I may be the weird one here lol but I love speeches they are so special 🤍 my grandma is doing a speech with my Aunty , father in law and step mom, brother in law and his mom and my maid of honour!
    I told them all to keep it short, we are doing speeches throughout dinner so people can still eat, we are having a buffet dinner so people can get food eat and each person will do their speech throughout dinner if that makes sense
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  • Carine
    Featured September 2023 Ontario
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    Exactly what happened at the wedding no one was listening and getting very HANGRY. I was trying to listen to the speeches but the noise and the people talking over the ones who were talking it was pointless
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  • Liberty
    Featured May 2022 Alberta
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    I can imagine! I'd be getting hangry!
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  • Carine
    Featured September 2023 Ontario
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    It was so lonnnggg😴😴😴😴
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  • Carine
    Featured September 2023 Ontario
    Carine ·
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    That’s what happened to us. It was open bar before dinner then seated for dinner, but waited and hour between meals due to speeches, so you can imagine the people who did shots and non stop drinking before getting food. It was wild
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  • Carine
    Featured September 2023 Ontario
    Carine ·
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    Glad to hear you had a great day, and I bet you feel better now that it’s done. Anything you wish you had done or wish you didn’t do?
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  • Liberty
    Featured May 2022 Alberta
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    I would hate waiting for dinner till after speeches! Especially if they were long!
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  • Carine
    Featured September 2023 Ontario
    Carine ·
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    I feel like making guest wait for their dinner to hear people they do not know talk for 5 minutes is just unfair. But I like cutting it down to a few people and no more than two minutes.
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  • Liberty
    Featured May 2022 Alberta
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    We limited the number of speeches. One family member from each side (my auntie, his mom), 1 bridesmaid, the best man and ourselves. Told everyone to keep it under 2 mins. We did speeches after all guests had their meal/before cake cutting.
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  • Rayanne
    Featured June 2022 Ontario
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    It was super tiring but nice. I'm so happy to not have to think about it any more lol. We did our speeches while they were serving. One speech was while dinner was being served and our was while dessert was being served
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  • Amanda
    Featured August 2022 British Columbia
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    For all of our speeches shouldn't be more then 30 minutes maybe 45 minutes max
    Omg yes I would hate to listen for 3 hours 🤣
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  • Brittany
    Frequent user August 2023 Alberta
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    Have a maximum time allowed. I would tell each person you decide to have a speech they have a 2 minutes to 2.5 minutes. If it's anything longer than that I feel like it's just winging it at that point and they are mumbling. It's not a life story being presented. It's a funny, sweet, short story or memory about the bride and groom, congratulations and move on.

    I feel like anything more is pointless and people stop listening. I have been to only 1 wedding and the speeches were way to long and everyone was looking at their phones after the 2 minute mark.

    This of course is just my opinion which is why i decided to opt out of speeches all together. I don't care for them at all.

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  • Carine
    Featured September 2023 Ontario
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    Congratulations BTW, how was your wedding?

    I don't mind them but keep it short for sure.

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  • Carine
    Featured September 2023 Ontario
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    During dinner without breaks in between seems good. I guess I'm more eager for the dancing and partying then having to listen to 3 hours of speeches it gets long.

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  • Rayanne
    Featured June 2022 Ontario
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    We had two speeches because I personally hate them lol. The best man gave a speech and we did a thank you for coming speech. We asked anyone who wanted to do a speech to keep it under 4 minutes. Luckily only one person wanted to 😆
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  • Carine
    Featured September 2023 Ontario
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    Okay I like that idea to have it before dinner and after dinner.

    I felt like my friends family and bridal party was never ending, they did first course then 1 hour of speeches, second course then another hour of speeches, and so on, then she had about 2 hours of dancing. I would like to do speeches while we wait for the main course, eat and then finish speeches and start the dancing.

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  • Amanda
    Featured August 2022 British Columbia
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    We are having our speeches during dinner about 30 minutes after we've started
    We're having my MOH, best man, my mom and dad together, his mom and step dad together and his dad and step mom speak
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  • Kim
    Frequent user June 2022 British Columbia
    Kim ·
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    I will be the first to admit that we are going to have quite a few speeches during our reception (7).

    That being said, we've decided to split them up so everyone doesn't have to listen to them all one after the other.

    The parent speeches will be before dinner (my parents together and his parents separately), then each person of our wedding party (four) will be saying something small after dinner.

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