Speeches

I don't know if that's normal, but if she wants to read it ahead of time and ruin the surprise, that's really on her, right?

Your speech is how you want to say it and how you express thoughts to the couple and a friend. Bride/Groom shouldn't be reading it knowing whats being said or how taking that momentum away from you.

Keep it to yourself and have another version which she can rewrite if she insists unknowing thats what your not saying. You will feel good in your heart and surprise her and husband.

I won't be reading my MOH or anyone's speeches, but I will ask that certain topics/stories be omitted from the speech. I'd let the bride know that you want your speech to be a nice surprise, but if there's and topics she doesn't want, to let you know of them.

Not everybody is comfortable with surprises or being roasted in front of a large group! So I'm sure it has happened before, but it's not the "norm".

If you haven't already, you should sit down with the Bride and ask her what she wants and doesn't want in your speech. You can tell her that you'll stay away from her "don't talk about x" list, but the speech will remain a surprise.

Though I won't be reading any of the speeches, my FH and I will definitely give our parents certain guidelines as to what we want the speech to exclude. Reliving embarrassing moments is not something I wish to do on my wedding day, thank you very much - My brain does a pretty good job of doing that on its own lol.

Part of the speech is it being a surprise. I haven’t heard of a bride proofreading it before. You can maybe ask her if there is anything specifically that she wants excluded from the speech but other than that I would tell her you want to surprise her

I don’t think I would want to read any speeches before hand. If she didn’t want you saying certain things in the speech she could have let you know before you wrote it.

That's kind of weird.. I understand her wanting to make sure you don't add anything too embarrassing or something but when my maid of honour asked if I wanted to read hers I said no because I wanted to wait till the day or. Glad I did too it was so much nicer!
I almost want to suggest you give her a fake one to read lol but idk what her personality it like and if that would make her mad.

Ive never heard of either the bride or groom reading speeches before the wedding

I mean, I won't be asking to read any of the speeches - but I'm okay with Tea being spilled (we told the wedding party that this is basically a roast of me and my FH). As long as you can assure her you won't embarrass her (assuming that's what she's worried about), it would be fine. Maybe ask her why she want's to spoil it (in a joking way but low-key serious...)?

Don’t think this is normal?

i won’t be reading my MOHs speech.