Speeches!

For speeches we had my sister/MOH, one of my husbands groomswomen, my dad and his dad. He also did a speech after everyone else.

I wasn't even thinking about speeches until this discussion! My parents are divorced, so I don't think they'll want to do a speech, we'll be asking FH's parents if they want to. Otherwise, we'll just do our joint speech and that will be it.

Our MC is a family friend, he knows my FH and I very well and there's a funny story about how he met my FH!

I like having an outline, but I also like to speak in the moment, so a blend of having something prepared and winging it lol!

Luckily my FH is on the same page as me regarding open mic, so not happening!

I'd be the one insisting on writing my own vows but I also don't want to trip over my words at the ceremony.

We're going to try to keep the speeches to a minimum - his brother/best man, his sister/my maid of honor, our parents, my great-uncle, and then a brief thank you from us. We definitely don't want an open mic option, or the night would never end (we are related to/friends with a lot of talkers lol)

We're also getting married in June, and we've already started brainstorming some ideas. Luckily, we aren't writing our (public) vows, so we have time. We are doing private vows as well though, and I have started working on those (he definitely has not)

I'm pretty sure we'll do a joint one, mostly because my FH's part will probably be 1-2 lines long lol. We'll look at writing it probably 1-2 months before, maybe even sooner. Won't have it word for word, more like talking points. We'll practice timing it so we know how long it is.

I'm having my MOH and possibly another bridesmaid do a joint speech - they were on board a while ago, but should check in to see if they still have to a joint one.

FH's best woman will do a speech too.

FH's dad will be invited to say a few words.

My parents will speak and thank everyone for attending. Not sure if they are going to do a joint speech but they told me it'd be short and sweet.

MC might also share a quick story about us at the beginning of speeches to kick things off.

Not sure if we are going to have our siblings talk (my brother and his sister) since I don't want to have so much time taken up by speeches.

We are definitely not going to have an open mic since I know some guests who'd jump on and talk for 30 minutes lol

I don't think we'll end up writing our own vows, my FH isn't good with words and we have a lovely template that makes me tear up anytime I read it. We might change up the wording, but won't write our own thing.

I'm so nervous about our speech We are doing a joint one...haven't started writing it yet but we still have 40-ish days haha We have been SO busy, really hoping we get a chance to work on it next weekend! Once that is done I think I will be able to relax.

Definitely not going to wing it, I can't deal with that pressure haha My sisters husband did that for his half of their speech...it was....not so great haha

We asked our wedding party who wants to say a speech- FH's brother will be saying one, my bridesmaids are doing a group speech, FH's parents will say one, and my Dad will say one (my Mom gets too nervous in front of crowds)

I am having a hard enough time with nerves for the speech, so we are not writing our own vows (FH is nervous too)

We originally didn't want to do speeches AT ALL, but our parents freaked out at the idea.

We also don't have a wedding party and will try to keep speeches to a minimum. I think one from our parents and one from us will be enough!

We are keeping the speeches to a minimum. Both sets of parents, best man and MOH.

We will also be doing a joint speech. FH is not a big speaker, so he will need some help lol.

As for vows, we are able to basically create our own ceremony with the help of our officiant. So we are trying to make it as personal as possible. We are doing a wine box ceremony, so we will have letters written to each other to open in a year, so I look at that as our own vows.

I am not sure about open mic. My sister had a part in her wedding where she welcomed well wishes from family who were not able to attend, and one person read all of those. it was very long and boring lol. SO not doing that one.

I am super organized, so We will probably have our speeches done before the summer.

We will be giving a joint speech as far as I'm aware. My FH is against speeches in general so if we don't do it together he probably wouldn't do one at all

We will be having us, MOH, Best Men(he has 2 but they can do a joint one), and then parents are allowed to as well as our grandparents but no obligation to do so.

Open Mic will most likely be okay as long as we get through all of our speeches - we will have to play it by ear on the day of.

We probably won't start writing the speeches until maybe 3 weeks before the wedding or so, but I may throw in some last minute things if something unexpected happens after it.

As for vows - my Fiancé isn't big into that either so the most I could get out of him is that we are to exchange letters to each other before we get married Good compromise.

We've got designated friends/family making speeches.

1. We're not having a bridal party, but the 2 besties who would be my MOH's (combined speech...it's tradition and what we did for their weddings)

2.His sister

3.His friend (who would be his best man)

4. We'll give our "thanks for coming we love you all" speech at the beginning of the cocktail hour and start the post ceremony celebration with a mimosa toast, instead of a champagne toast (morning ceremony, brunch reception).

My mother's officiating, and my dad's mc-ing the welcome dinner so they won't do day of speeches.

We're only allowing for open mic sp toasts at the welcome dinner (2 mins max!).

We're getting married on April 20, and will start writing our speeches and vows sometime in early April.