Speeches

I am so nervous about public speaking but I know its gotta happen! Starting to plan what I'm going to say already. My FH can be really long winded so I've been working on him already lol.

Between courses at dinner. I've asked everyone to keep it fairly short.

View quoted message I was thinking of doing the exact same thing with that! My dad's side has so many stories to share!

We will have speeches during dinner. All of our parents will speak (my fiance's parents, my mom, my dad and step-mom), as will his Best Woman, and my Maid of Honour. We will also give a short thank-you speech.

I have joked about having an open mic for anyone to come up and say whatever they want for a maximum of two minutes because all my uncles LOVE to give speeches, but we're not 100% sure of this yet.

We are using speeches as a transition from course to course so it’s not just dead time. We are going to have our BM, MOH, both sets of parents, and then ourselves five small speeches

Thank you everyone!! We're gonna leave it up to the wedding party to decide what they want to do or not do

We are definitely doing the MOH and BM speeches. and of course a thank you from us. the thank you is the most important one in my opinion.

we are still deciding on the parent ones. because our parental situation is unique. his parents are divorced. don't know if his dad would want to speak (but wouldn't want him to feel left out if the mom does...so we are thinking maybe his brother and dad can speak together). and my parents are both gone. so my aunt and uncle are my "parents" for all wedding things. so we are going to ask them (if we do the parent ones).

the only thing i'm asking is nothing too embarrassing and to keep it around 2-3 minutes (but aren't enforcing the time...giving it as a good guideline)

For us, our MOH and best woman will give a speech, followed by his dad, my parents, and then us. We're asking everyone to keep them short, less than 5 minutes so we're at 25 minutes of speeches max!

I would say that at very minimum the two of you should give a thanks for everybody coming and how much work everybody has put into the big day - but other than that it's up to you how much you want being said. I will be giving a speech with my FH (although he will be my H with no F!!), my MOH (sister) should give one, and my FH's two bestmen will probably give one. If our parents want to say something that's cool too but I don't want too much talking when we could be enjoying ourselves!

If you do want speeches just ask the people who you ask to give one to share a favourite memory or words of advise for you. Nothing major has to be said - although if they can pull a tear jerker then that's a win!

I did before the dinner and for tining purposes. The wedding party gave speeches only being 3 people and myself.

Here's a good article on the traditional order of speeches and their purpose :

/wedding-planning/organising-and-planning/order-of-wedding-speeches

We wanted to skip speeches altogether but got serious backlash from our parents. I know my FFIL wants to embarrass me with the story of the time I ruined his car door in their driveway *eye roll*. I'm asking my mom to do a speech, as my dad isn't the greatest public speaker (ie. he's the master of inappropriate jokes). We don't have a wedding party, so we'll just end the speeches with our very own "thank you!" speech. We'll ask everyone to keep it extra short.