Should engaged women participate in the bouquet toss?

I say anyone not married can participate if they want to!

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That is incredibly cute. Never thought of that idea before.

If your engaged then I would say no. If you were only dating, then I would say so. Lots of my friends asked the same question. Even if they are dating they still should go try to catch it. It's only if they are engaged to be married, or married that the women should not try to catch the bouquet.

I did not participate in the toss while engaged. At our wedding, we will not be doing a garter toss or a bouquet toss. My FH is shy and doesn't want to peel anything off of me in a room full of people, so we are nixing the garter toss and the bouquet toss as they seem to go together.

I was engaged at both my cousins' weddings this past year and I did not participate in the bouquet toss.

I don't think engaged women should participate in the bouquet toss because if you're engaged, you are promised to someone already. The bouquet toss was traditionally for women who were totally unattached.

Thanks everyone! It looks like most of us feel the same when it comes to this tradition. I think the idea of giving the bouquet to the couple who has been together the longest is super sweet!
Thank you all again!!

We are doing something different instead of the bouquet toss! We are still getting an extra bouquet but instead of doing the toss we are going to give the bouquet to the couple who have been married the longest at our wedding. It helps honour them and helps cut down on the awkward single people things at the wedding.

I didn't have a bouquet toss at our wedding, mainly because I always remembered it being so awkward for the singletons who didn't really want to be up there lol!

I don't think there should be a hard set rule for who gets to participate. As long as your not married it's all good! Heck, why not include men and women? We live in modern times

From what I've seen (in searches etc) it can be any unmarried women, or it can be unattached women. You can pretty much do whatever and just have your MC or DJ announce it?

I always hated the bouquet toss and from the comments I see I'm not alone! So I'm personally not having one. If I was, it would be open to everyone men/women/single/married/engaged because that's the only way I'd ever do it.

I have never been a fan of the bouquet toss and would go out of my way to disappear before this happened at weddings, so I let our DJ know that. He mentioned that nowadays he just tells all the ladies to get out on the floor, single or not, and makes it fun for everyone. I personally like the idea of this and we will do the same for our garter toss too.

Hi Marie I am with Simone here. But I think it depends of the couple too. Like if the bride who's throwing the bouquet wants just single persons than you can't partifcipate but if she doen't care if you are single or engaged than it depends on you. Like Simone said it more of a choice. Hope this help.

Hi Marie, that's a good question. I'm not sure if there is a set rule for who participates in the bouquet toss in terms of someone being engaged. Personally, I would not take participate in it since I'm engaged, but I did take part when I was not engaged. I think it's more about choice than etiquette.

I think it is fine as well if you want to.

I personally hate them so I likely wouldn't...I tried to avoid them as a single person and always ended up out there anyway. It was fun when I was young and single...older and single not as much fun. As a result not having one at my wedding

I probably wouldn't, but that's just because I dislike the bouquet toss, I don't see any harm in it though, it's all in fun anyway!

I think it's fine for engaged people to participate. I was at a wedding where the DJ said if you aren't married you're considered single and can participate.

I am not too sure on the etiquette on this! Last August my friends got married and it was mostly couples and so I participated while engaged just to have some more people up there because there wasn't a whole lot! But I made it a point not to catch it