rsvp Responses?

I'd mark the couple down as RVSP "yes" even if they aren't sure. I wouldn't mention it to anyone that this is being done, except for the couple in question and just ask them to not mention it to anyone else.

I don't think anyone would just "show-up" if they didn't RVSP, this is why I would follow up closer to the deadline and ask if they are attending then. If someone RVSPs yes/no hopefully they don't change that response without letting the couple know. A few years ago I had to RVSP no to a wedding that I later found out I could attend, but I didn't want to crash it so I still didn't go.

That's a really nice thing you want to do for that couple! I'm sure they will appreciate it. As for everyone else, there's an RSVP deadline for a reason, and if someone either doesn't RSVP (and you can't get a hold of them to confirm a "yes" or "no") or RSVP's "no" and show's up anyway, it's their fault if there's not a seat for them.

This is a huge stress of mine too! If people say their going to come then no show, we’re out $120 per person. I understand making an exception for someone with heath issues. But you can’t do it for everyone. Most people know it’s a yes or no thing when it comes to RSVP for the most part. We just had a friend call us that their coming with their wife, and our RRSPs were due a long time ago. Of course we are happy to have them. I’m just happy I haven’t started on seating arrangements yet lol

I think in these situations guests should respond “yes” and if they do not show up, they do not show up.

its unfortunate they are having health issues and are unsure but it makes it easier for you to plan if people say yes and just don’t end up coming.

I would count them as yes they are attending that way there would be a plate for them if they can make it. Hopefully you will find out if they can make it before your final numbers have to be submitted.

View quoted message Thank you for your thoughts Tori. And what i meant by "buying two extra plates" is that our venue does buffet but you buy 1 plate per person so they know how much meat they have to cook. (1 piece of beef per person)

I'm not sure what you mean by "buy 2 extra plates", but I would think that if anybody mentions the situation that you can just go about it by explaining that they simply RSVP'd yes, but it will be up in the air as to whether they physically make it?

I have never heard of a wedding where other people try and take others spots at a table, but if it's a possibility and concern of yours maybe you could see about either hiring a "bouncer" of sorts or delegating some GM to escort unwanted/uninvited guests out.