rsvp help

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This is exactly what I was going to suggest. My cousin had the exact number of blanks to be filled in with the names of who he invited and then below a spot to list any guests. That way, they could see who the extra people were.

So I have figured it out. We are addressing the envelopes to the person plus guest if they are single. On the rsvp it self we have put space for the name up top and one for the guest as well.

Hopefully people dont don’t get offended if they do, oh well. Like my FH says it’s our wedding and we will do what we want. 😬

“We have reserved blank number of seats in your Honour”

View quoted message Absolutely do it! It's theperfect way to get the point across without being rude

View quoted message Ok this is perfect I might steal it for mine hahah!!

We are leaving it as "we have reserved ____ seats in your honour". We will be hand writing the names of each invite as well as the number, so if john and mary smith are the names on the invite, we would write "two" in the blank.

If its john and mary and their 2 kids, we will be putting "smith family" for the names and then writing "four" in the blank. Hope this helps

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Hmmm thats a tricky one. the only thing i can think of is maybe just reach out to her, or even having your FH mom or dad (which ever side she is from) like casually mention it to her one day that you guys are trying to keep it close family and friends only, and maybe she will get the hint.

I totally feel like it would be fair too, that if she RSVP'd with like 7 people to say "hey I'm sorry, but this is a little bit awkward but they are not invited, as we are not close enough with them."

I'm sure her children that have their own family would clue in like "oh we didn't get an invite, i guess we weren't invited, and shouldn't show up with our mom" kind of thing (hopefully people are that smart) hahah

View quoted message That is an idea I didn’t think of. My problem is FH aunt has like 5 kids two of them are older and have their own families. But FH doesn’t get along with them, and we are on a tight budget. Trying to make sure she doesn’t bring the whole family is what I need to control.

When creating the line for wording, I put Number of Guests: ______. This way i controlled was to attend only. I followed it by meal choices leaving leaving lines to show when emailing.

I am having the same problem. I didnt want to do the 'we've reserved 2 seats for you" thing.

I have decided to just address the actual envelope to who exactly is invited "Eva and family" or "steve and megan" and then i have just put "names of guests ______" and then they can check off if they are coming or declining.

i figured I'm having a small enough wedding, (70 people, about 1/3 being family) that if people are bringing people I've never met/ or multiple people i don't know i will just reach out and say we trying to keep it a little more intimate.

however, we also are having a wedding in my hometown, so i doubt many people will make a 5+ drive with a "date" that they aren't serious about