rsvp deadlines

View quoted message Okay I’m going to do it!! I rather get it over with then wait and be chasing everyone down when I’m about to get married and have a bunch of other stuff to worry about lol


Oh I know it’s frustrating, we invited 100 guests and we have 38 no response. And it’s close family too like my fiancés brother or my Aunty!? I guess people get busy 🤷🏼‍♀️ I’ve reminded them in person too but nope, no rsvp lol

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After trying 3 times I'd give up and hope they do not show up for dinner lol. They had their chance and you have other pressing things to worry about.

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Yeah its been very annoying my fiancé always says that we're not their babysitters we shouldn't have to chase them.

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That is very annoying, I would put them as not coming, sorry we need to get our guest numbers to the venue, there's just so much chasing around you can do that if they still have it done it, too bad.

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I would just send out the reminder. We reminded everyone a month before but we had like under 20 guests to remind so it wasn't too bad but like some them are family which is the annoying part lol like you've had since april to send them in plus we have seen you.... so like where is it?

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We Texted our guests most of them responded but i think there was a few of my fiancé's friends that never responded

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RIGHT!!!! super frustrating. I'm giving them an extra week just incase they sent it this week and the rsvp's arrive next week but after that i'm just considering it as a decline!

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We texted them and they all said they would send it they just keep forgetting or they didn't respond

If you have their email address or private message on facebook just asking them if they are coming. if you still do not get a response just mark them as declined.

I’m going through the exact same thing! My deadline is this Friday for my RSVP’s and I don’t think we’ve got half of them back yet. It’s super frustrating. Wedding planning is stressful as it is. The least guests can do is rsvp on time. I’m giving them an extra week to give the last minute ones a chance to get back to us, but after that, I’m having my maid of honour call everyone else who hasn’t responded by that time.

View quoted message I thought the same !! Seems like a good idea!


Did you call or text your guests?

View quoted message We did a reminder two weeks before the deadline and it helped alot!

Mine is the 30th and I was wondering the same thing! I haven’t sent out reminders yet but I’m eager to lol
I posted this same question but on a Facebook wedding group. People were telling me I shouldn’t send reminders until the week before my deadline and then again the day after my deadline 🤷🏼‍♀️

It’s taking everything in me to not just send them now but I don’t want to pester my guests 😂😬

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I 100% agree. I did not know until recently that if someone has not RSVP that apparently we are supposed to reach out to them as common courtesy. Which I think is bull, RSVP are there for a reason and everyone knows this. I have never been to a wedding and even I know that clearly respond by the deadline given.

You are getting married in less than three months, you are going to be busy enough as it is getting last minute wedding things together, do not need the added stress of reaching out to everyone who did not RSVP.

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So brutal! Like we shouldn't even have to send out reminders lol like we are planning a wedding which is already chaotic and stressful enough we don't need to be your babysitters to get you to RSVP haha so frustrating

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Very true. My fiancé is at the point where he feels that we shouldn't have to babysit grown-ups to RSVP so if they don't rsvp then they get no seat at the wedding.

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Most of them are my FH coworkers/friends that have not RSVP'd yet so he would have to be the one to contact them but my fiancé is at the point where he says he already reminded them once and he doesn't feel like he should have to babysit grown ups to rsvp haha which he's not wrong. It's just super frustrating IMO

If you sent a reminder, I wouldn't bother. Some people just love the attention of being begged to attend something and I'm not playing that game. If they don't answer but make a fuss, that's on them.

I would give those guests a call and confirm. That's what my fiance and I had to do last week when our deadline was July 1st.

I would call EVERY ONE lol. Take some time out of your day on Saturday the 16th and call each person. Be strict about it. They have had more than enough time to think about it and make plans. Explain that on the phone and tell them you need an answer on the phone.

I don't play around when it comes to that.

And if you don't want to call, consider them as not coming and if they show up tell them there is no place for them because they didn't respond.

View quoted message Yes out of the 11 rsvp’d we know 5 are for sure coming they just keep giving us the excuse that they keep forgetting to mail it or they say “you know we’re coming didn’t think I actually had to send the rsvp back” but yeah my fiancé says the same thing that is the other people don’t send it in the too bad their not coming

Of these 11 people, do you have any idea if they will come but just havent gotten to RSVP yet, or do you think they will decline?

I feel you've given everyone ample time to reply, and even giving them reminders, so if they don't provide an answer by your date, I would consider them as declined, unless the above question makes you believe they will still make it. You can always tack on an extra head or two to be safe, but else wise, I would just go with your actually confirmed numbers, and too bad for those people.