Rehearsal dinner

You wouldn't have to. If you want to do a get together with family and close friends and do a BBQ then that would be nice.

I think it’s up to you. Honestly, if it’s just you, him and the officiant, I wouldn’t.

Completely up to you what you would like to do. Rehearsal dinners are by no means a must, I find just doing a small rehearsal for the ceremony may help calm the nerves. As generally your officiant will give you a break down of the ceremony will go, when everybody comes in (groom, bride etc).

I wanted to skip the dinner completely but FH wants to do the dinner so I said ok in the end.

No. It's up to you if you're paying for it. The rehearsal dinner was traditionally paid for by the groom's parents, as kind of a welcome party, as well as a time for you and your fiance to say thank you to those who helped plan, and give them their thank you gifts.

We do not have the budget for a rehearsal dinner... so we are just inviting the immediate group to go out for dinner with us after the rehearsal, where everyone will cover themselves. We are giving out our gifts the morning of the wedding as well.

I think it's a tradition that many people aren't doing anymore.

I think the rehearsal dinner is something traditional if you have a lot of people in your parry to host them as a thank you for the expense and the time and dedication of being part of your day. We are doing our rehearsal and then we're hosting a wine and cheese welcome for all of our guests since it's an out of town wedding and most domt know each other. We are having people into our separate rooms the night before just to relax before the wedding and have a little bit of an open house type thing but between the wine and cheese and that, the two of us are just going to run away and take a picnic into the vineyard to spend an hour or two together before all the craziness!

You may still want to do a rehearsal (comfirm with the officiant). But as far a rehearsal dinner goes no your good to skip it. If you want to spend a bit more time with guests coming in from out of town you can always just let guests know where you will be and encourage them to come join you (no dinner, bar tab, or cost needed for you other than your own).

We will be letting everyone know that we will be downstairs in the hotel lounge at a certain time and everyone is welcome to come down join us. But most family is coming in from out of province so i want to have a bit of time to catch up outside of the wedding day.

Thanks for the advice. I know my question says our parents but I should have said he doesn't have parents with us anymore and my parents are divorced so it would not be a fun dinner. Perhaps we will just meet with the officiant ourselves and skip the dinner.

I think that your officiant might want to have a rehearsal just so that everyone is on the same page as to when to do what so that there are less hiccups the day of the wedding - this includes you, your groom and both sets of parents.

But you don't necessarily have to have a dinner for it if you don't want to, unless for convenience you all do want to grab something to eat afterward - it does not need to be super formal I don't think.

The main point of the rehearsal dinner is so that you know who walks in what order and when - if it's just the two of you then there really is no need for the dinner part. Of course even if it was more than the two of you, you could just have a rehearsal and no dinner or a bbq instead.

Its just you two and no one else with no wedding party. Rehearsal dinner isn't required at all then. If your thinking dinner with the family only, go for it. If your having your guests the night before, host a welcome dinner instead.

Hmm, I domt think that you would necessarily need to havw a traditional rehearsal dinner, but i do think that your officiant will want to meet up the day before anyway, so why not do a dinnerwith just parents after? We are not paying for everyones dinners at ours, we are renting out part of a restaurant and footing the bill for that, buteveryone is responsible for their own food and drink. That's not on you to have to pay for, and dont feel badly for peoplehaving to pay for their own stuff once in a while