Hey hey, I’m just really interested to know other peoples experiences as newlyweds. All that people ever say is ‘the first year will be hard’ and, as a couple that moved in together for the first time after getting married, that you’d just have to get used to each other.
Maybe I’m an over-analyzer but there’s so much more! We’ve been together for almost six years, married for three weeks now. We have a Christian background and waited to have sex and move in until we were married. We’re pretty modern so it’s not like sleeping over is a shock or that I barely know the guy.
One thing that is really surprising for me is that I totally feel an innate pressure to be the housewife! Wtf! I’m a strong independent woman, why do I suddenly feel pressured by myself to make sure dinners ready when he’s home, or pressure to clean up real quick and put on some makeup before he walks in the door. I have this sudden worry to be the perfect wife, when I never found I held that pressure as a girlfriend or fiancé. I was always of the stance of take me as I am, farts and all. (I still say that now too don’t worry lol).
I’m so worried about being a naggy wife that I stress over whether or not to tell him to clean up his dishes. A goal of mine is to not let the petty stuff become a fight or whatever so I try not to nag him about closing the damn closet doors every time he uses them but then if I do I worry about being a good wife! Y’all I need to take a chill pill in many ways on my life but I’m just saying the feeling of good wife/bad wife, housewife pressure was a shock for me.
Another thing that’s taking a lot of my thoughts is just looking at how much change there is to get used to. From the outside, a married couple should have zero stress when the wedding is over and they’re just settling in. But in reality for me, just the process of finding a new ‘normal’ is exhausting! I live somewhere new, away from my parents, with my husband, looking for a new job, have a new name, new identity in being a wife. It’s just totally different than my last six years of being a dating, working, living at home young adult.
I feel like I’m handling it fairly well, and trying to give myself grace as it takes time to just process these things and let them settle, but I’d just love to know if anyone else experienced the same things and what surprised you as a newlywed, apart from the typical ‘omg he leaves socks on the ground’ shit. THANKS 
