Kaitlyn
Frequent user August 2022 Ontario

Postponement Question

Kaitlyn, on April 16, 2021 at 11:21 Posted in Wedding reception 1 14
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For those of you that have/ are planning on postponing but did have a small ceremony on/around your date....Are/did you postpone your showers & bachelorette? Will you be having a rehearsal dinner etc when you have your actual wedding? Will you be renewing your vows, or just having a reception?

Our wedding is scheduled for June 26, 2021 (70 days away). We have not postponed yet, but we are getting close I think. Our original guest list was 225 and we have gotten it down to 100 but with huge immediate families whom we are very close to we do not wish to lower our guest count any more than that. That being said, we do still want to get legally married this year and have our big party/reception next year when it is (hopefully) safe to do so.

How are you doing your postponements? Any suggestions are very welcome!

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Latest activity by Amanda, on April 19, 2021 at 11:43
  • Amanda
    Expert July 2022 Ontario
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    That's what we did lol ! Baby due Nov 1st 2021 and We got married in our home Feb 13 2021 and our BIG Wedding / Vow renewal July 2022 - We couldn't be happier we did it this way! Smiley smile

    We also had the best wedding day ever this year with just the people who mean the most parents, grandparents, and siblings. Smiley heart

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  • Kaitlyn
    Frequent user August 2022 Ontario
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    We have officially postponed to August 13, 2022. We are going to go ahead with a very small 10 person ceremony this year on our original date though. Since everything is going to be in shut down for a while we will postpone our bachelor and bachelorette parties, and likely showers as well.

    Who knows - maybe we will have a baby between our ceremony and reception lol!!!

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  • Erin
    Curious June 2021 Ontario
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    This is exactly our situation too! I’m so thankful we were able to get everyone scheduled for May 1st because I want to get pregnant early next year and I don’t want to have a bump showing for the wedding and also so I can still fit in my dress lol.
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  • Kaitlyn
    Frequent user August 2022 Ontario
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    This is basically our exact situation - were now going through and trying to find a date that works for all of our vendors. It is looking like we may have to postpone the reception until August 2022, as if I wanted to keep my vendors and stay in June we would have to look at 2023 which is just too far away for me.

    We may try to get pregnant with our first child soon, so we are able to start our family before the reception as we are in our mid-30s.

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  • Rayanne
    Featured January 2022 Ontario
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    I was never planning on having a wedding shower. I wanted to do a wine tour/bike ride type of thing with the girls in the warmer weather. I can't see that happening this summer. Though Im not even sure about our Jan 2022 wedding right now....
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  • Amelia
    Master October 2020 New Brunswick
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    We got married in October with just immediate family and our wedding party (about 20) and we're planning on having a reception and vow renewal eventually. I want to keep traditional elements (vows, bouquet toss, first dances) for that occasion so that the family who missed out in 2020 still feel like they're at our wedding and not just at a fancy party.
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  • J
    Beginner June 2021 Ontario
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    Our date is June 26 2021 too. So far we’re going ahead as planned but I’m getting worried the closer we’re getting to our date. We booked the venue in November 2019 and always planned for a ceremony and reception with 25 people (inclusive of us). The only thing we changed so far was eliminating the indoor elements so it’s all outdoors. Hopefully it all works out 🤞


    We cancelled any bridal shower/bachelorette/bachelor parties. And I have yet to send out the welcome/rehearsal dinner invites although guest know the intention is to have that if we can.
    At this point just hoping in Ontario we can have our ceremony/reception with 25 people (including us), outdoors, socially distanced, masked, and everyone stays in their own household bubbles at their tables. ✨
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  • Niki
    Frequent user August 2021 Ontario
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    June 6, 2021 is our 3rd date (Nov7/2020, March 27/2021). We are planning to just have our ceremony with our reception next year in 2022. We couldn’t push the ceremony anymore- but unfortunately with today’s news of the stay at home order being extended and weddings only allowed to hold 10 in a ceremony it’s very disappointing as we were hoping for the 15% capacity. We are going to think about what we need to do since we literally can’t have just 10 people. My shower was postponed with every new wedding date and I still may and try to pull of my drive- by shower. We can’t do a rehearsal dinner because of the regulations in Ontario but we will have our church rehearsal.
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  • Carmel
    Featured March 2021 Ontario
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    Our original date was 10 days into the last lockdown so we had no choice but to postpone. My shower and our mini bachelorette and bachelor party had already happened. That being said, given our wedding was supposed to be NYE, those prior events were in the warmer weather so we could be outside - so they were significantly earlier. We did still get married with a short, legal ceremony, with the allowed 10 people, in the beautiful park across from our venue. We then still spent the night at the hotel as planned. We also did not wear our wedding attire on our "marriage day" to keep that special for our "wedding day" but I also fully support wearing your expensive dress twice haha. We did this because we just wanted to be married and wanted our date, but we wanted our guests to fully experience our customized inter-faith ceremony with us (virtually or in person) so we added jokes about getting "re-married" 2.5 months later. We did everything as planned, including celebrating NYE in March 🤣. We still had an out-of-town dinner, which is the rehearsal plus hosting everyone staying at the hotel the night before. It's certainly not the way we planned it but let me tell you - when it works out, it feels better than you can ever imagine. It is so special to be able to have two events and the intimacy of a small private ceremony can't be beat. Hang in there 💜
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  • Erin
    Curious June 2021 Ontario
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    We were supposed to get married June 27th but postponed the reception and a vow renewal to next May 2022. We are doing a small backyard wedding of 25 people now on June 26th. I’m still doing my bridal shower and a bachelorette party the same night on June 5th, although now with these new predictions I’m not even sure about that. We are doing a joint bachelor/ bachelorette weekend at my cottage the next weekend because we all need a break from work and not being able to go anywhere lol. We’re not doing a rehearsal dinner anymore but might next year depending on the cases. We were supposed to have around the same number of people as you so that’s why we decided to postpone the reception. We couldn’t imagine it without all those people and not having a big party. I ended up pushing all our vendors to next year but getting a photographer for 4 hours this year and a minister and that was it.
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  • Rayanne
    Featured January 2022 Ontario
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    Jan will be our last chance at the big wedding party. If we have to mask up still and no dancing we will not be doing that kind of wedding. We will do more of a microwedding in the spring. My venue has made it an option. I hope by May 2022 masks won't be mandatory any more. I really hate the thought of all my pictures with people in masks. It will be a nice wedding no matter what happens...
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  • Hank
    Featured September 2021 Ontario
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    If we can have a reception of 25 by September, then that will be it. If we can only have a ceremony but not a reception (the more likely option at this point), we'll have a reception in the future when this is all over. Unless we have a kid between. If we have a kid, then we won't have the energy to plan another party. We might have a 100 day after birth for the kid (custom in Chinese families) but it would be much much more simple than a typical wedding. But if covid is still around when that kid is born, then we're going to say "screw it."

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  • Cindy
    Frequent user May 2021 Alberta
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    We postponed everything last year and now this year will have to postpone again. We are getting legally married on May 21 with our 10 people and doing a "sequel" wedding next year with a vow renewal and reception. We are also going to live stream somehow for anyone who is not part of our 10. (so like everyone really Smiley atonished )

    I was going to have my aunt and sister postpone the wedding shower however they really wanted to do it now as they thought we deserved it. Since we can only have 10 people gathering outdoors and no indoor component, we are doing an outdoor, scheduled wedding shower. Everyone invited was asked to pick a time to come so we could keep gathering to the 10 people limit.

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  • Christiana
    Super November 2020 British Columbia
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    We’re postponing our reception to when COVID is a distant memory (fingers crossed).
    We still got married on our original date with 10 people total - us, officiant, photographer, my husband’s immediate family, and 2 friends. My family wasn’t able to come due to restrictions.
    I wasn’t going to have a shower but did want a combined bachelor/bachelorette weekend. I think we’ll probably just scrap that part now. But we were just going to rent a cabin for a weekend and invite all of our friends so I’m sure we’ll do something like that in the future anyway just for fun.

    I don’t think we’ll do a rehearsal dinner because we’re not renewing our vows and there won’t be anything to rehearse. We likely wouldn’t have had one anyway as we didn’t have a bridal party.

    Even though it wasn’t what we planned we still loved our small wedding and I wouldn’t change anything (although it would have been nice to have my family here too).

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