Hi all,
I was not sure if this was the right forum to post this in but I need help from members with outside perspective. I am a very anxious and non-confrontational person, but I have recently had to face the decision of removing one of my bridesmaids. I spent a lot of time trying to convince myself it was okay and that I could tolerate it. I know that doing this will hurt her feelings and ultimately end the friendship. I know that this is a very sensitive topic, but any opinion or insight that someone could provide as to the best way to have this conversation with her would really help.
A little back story is we have been friends for quite some time, and we are both in the same friend circle. After asking her to join my bridal party as a bridesmaid, it soon came out that she had created some pretty nasty drama that resulted in myself and a lot of our friends getting hurt. While we all confronted her on it, she lied to me and hid things that later came to light again. After taking the time to work through it with her, the remainder of what she did was put into the open and when I found out she had initially lied to me it caused us all a lot more hurt and I became very distrusting of her word.
I didn't want to hurt her feelings, so I continued to let it go despite how I was feeling hoping that maybe she would make an honest effort to work through it. We barely speak anymore, it is now just a text here and a response 4 days later. I know that this is going to hurt her, and I know that I just have to bare that - but I want to still be as respectful as I can while explaining to her that she is causing me more stress during this time than she is taking away.
If I can provide any information that might help you offer more detailed advice, then please let me know. I am just not sure how much/how little to post.
I hope all of this made sense, and I thank you for taking the time to not only read this but for taking the time to provide your input as well.
- K
