Hello my fellow brides. So here is a situation am in. I am a sentimental woman and my FH is not. I am truly marrying my opposite but damn we are a great pair lol. However, right now I am a bit sad.
I asked him about 1yr ago about doing personal vows, He said No not interested, i thought i would be hopeful and ask him again in the year we are getting married so i asked him sometime this Feb still "NO" - so i was still being hopeful and i brought it up again this week because he said some sweet words about me in text to my mother and i threw in the question then but still "NO". so now i have to back off and let it be, but a feel sad about it.
i truly dont want to do generic vows, i want to put a personal touch on our ceremony something that means something to us. I am not sure how to let this one go. i have to but how?
back story: the reason why my FH is not interested on personal vows is because he is an introvert, also has anxiety when it comes to speaking or doing things with an audience, he straight up told me he is not comfortable with professing love with an audence. he does not want the pressure.
I know this about my FH, even in our day to day he is not that sentimental, emotional type so i know "why expect it on my wedding day right, lol" i guess just hope he will try something out of his box,
so my question to you all is - should a) i ask him what is a compromise to him when it comes to vows or b) just drop it and work with what we got from our officiant?
A compromise to me can look like adding some personal words for the officiant can say ie: and marsha, darren vows to..... and darren, marsha vows to ....
if any other compromise ideas please send them out - I am open to suggestions, hope my FH is open as well