Parents - ceremony help

Parents regardless of their status need to know family is family no matter what. I'm glad your dad got over his ego and did sit beside ypur mother. He should have never put you in that position.

Mine are divorced as well and I'm not even sure if my dad will come to my wedding. I'm letting people sit where ever they want during the ceremony. If he comes and decides he doesn't want to sit in the front but would rather be in the very back then so be it.

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It can be frustrating, I know. My fiance's parents are divorced, so there is an element of this with our wedding as well. The way I see it, the front two rows are for parents. If one can't sit with the other, then the problem is theirs and they can choose to move to another row. I would never dream of asking any of the parents to sit in the second row (especially in favour of letting aunts sit in the front row). Put ownership of his decision right back on him - where it belongs. He's trying to make you responsible for something that is ultimately his decision which is totally unfair. My philosophy has been that people can play by the rules that my fiance and I have set or they can sit out and watch others participate.

Hey all!

Yes my parents have been divorced for 5 years now and its been a long chaotic run when it just shouldn't be for a lot of reasons- (thedivorce)

I don't know why my dad is being childish right now... he said that he is going to talk with me today so we will see if he is willing to sit beside my mother for the ceremony - I personally think they should and get over their issues because its MY day not about them and they said they will walk into the reception together so why can't you hold it together for 15 minutes to listen and be apart of my wedding ceremony?

Thank you for the advice ladies! Just what I needed to hear - All valid points that I will bring up today with my dad and we will see how this goes! I'm hoping that he will agree and just see that its stupid for him to act like this especially because he won't be thinking about her when he walks me down the aisle - he will think, look at my baby girl who is getting married - rightt?? and be all emotional and excited as I say 'I DO' !!

Your mom is #1 so she gets the front row. If your dad is not comfortable with that, maybe he can sit on the other end of the front row. I don't know why people need to create so much drama.

I agree with what both the other ladies have said so far but I would also add that maybe your mum and in-laws could sit in the front row on one side of the aisle and your dad and his sisters on the other if your dad is THAT attached to sitting with his sisters.

Oh wow! I thought things like this only happened in movies. There's 2 things you can do1. Talk to your dad and explain that YOU love your mom and would like her sitted in the front row. I'm hoping this will help To remind him that it's your day and put the focus back on your wishes
2. As Kathy said Maybe suggest that he taken the second row with his sisters.
It's tough! Keep us updated . Hope it works out well

I have to ask because you didn't mention it, are your parents divorced? I would say that's pretty rude to "bump" your Mom to another row. If you are close with her, you should want her in the front with a great view of the ceremony. I would say if your Dad is the one making the request to not sit with your Mom, then he can be bumped back to second row with his sisters... but that's just my opinion!