Other parties?

Just have a bachelorette party that is authentic to yourself. Mine is going to be a wine tour and a board game night, it's literally so me lol.

As for all the parties, I honestly don't get it all. I think it's all more for traditions than anything, however, things like a bridal shower doesn't really work for everyone since most of us already live with our FH's prior to marriage.

View quoted message It is but we haven't incorporated it into our tourism yet. Its illegal to consume in public places whereas in Denver, it's a completely different environment.

View quoted message Yup. Maybe she's from the States?

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That's what I was thinking - but weed is legal in Canada isn't it?

View quoted message I'm guessing legal weed

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I think I'm missing something - obvious legal reason?

I think just putting best wishes only on the invites implies no gift necessary. The paint night or an escape room is something you could do with your girls.

We went axe throwing for my bachelorette and then dinner and a few drinks at a nearby restaurant. I was home in my pyjamas by 11pm. I’m not a huge drinker and partied so this was perfect for me.

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That sounds like my kind of bachelorette party! I'm having mine in Denver, CO (for the obvious legal reason lol) but our itinerary has an crafting day, a spa day and a sushi rolling party!

I don't think that a bachelorette party hasn't to be crazy, fancy, or raunchy. It's generally just a party with the Bride's friends to celebrate the bride and hang out before the wedding.

Most of the bachelorette party's that I have been to have actually been pretty tame, mainly just because that's what my friends group likes. Here are a few examples:

- Pole dancing class, dinner out, margaritas and chick flicks at home.

- Shooting range, dinner and bowling, pub

- Yoga, BBQ & slumber party (the one I'm going to this weekend).

Generally the costs for the bride was either split between the bridal party or all of the people attending (for example, when calculating the cost of the pole dancing class, we just included the bride's cost in the total cost and divided it by everyone. For her dinner, her MOH covered it and other friends bought her drinks).

If what you feel suits you is a day hanging out at the beach and then going to a pub then that is a totally legitimate bachelorette party - it is a party to celebrate you after all!

I know that most have already explained, but here's my add on:

Stag/Buck & Doe and/or Wedding Socials = Fundraisers

Wedding Shower = Mostly for gifts and tea & sandwiches

Bachelor/Bachelorette = Party for last day "single"

"I do" BBQ = casual BBQ can be for engagement announcement or just a get together before the wedding to celebrate the fact you are getting married.

From the sounds of it you are looking to do a Bachelorette meets "I do" BBQ. I wouldn't worry about putting a label on it though. You can call it whatever you want; an "I do" crew excursion to the beach, an extended bachelorette week, etc.

For my bachelorette party I don't plan on going clubbing or going to a strip club - and I'm 21! I just want to maybe do hot yoga, go on a picnic, and then have drinks with my girls at a lounge or something like that!

Aside from the Stag and Doe which is used as a fundraiser for the wedding, many of the other get togethers are to celebrate the bride and groom before the wedding.

When my Dad and Step Mom got married, she did a mini bachelorette, and we just got a limo and went to a couple bars and the casino. It was a good night to just hang out with all the ladies. So you guys could do a pub crawl type thing with the ladies.

If you wanted to do a shower type get together, you can do a nice meal out with close family. Maybe a brunch or dinner?

Parties are for the couples who feel they want to enjoy time with friends ahead of time before their actual day.
Stag/Doe is a event to raise money for the wedding expenses. This helps to put towards their vendors and decor.

Some mothers of the brides feel they want thier daughters to have something to enjoy before they get married by having friends and family around.

These events aren't for everyone and have to be done if not the type to go through it.

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Huh, that's for that. I had no idea a stag and doe was a fundraiser. We'll probably skip that one then. Thanks! (We're having 80 at the wedding, so not huge).

A stag and doe is almost like a fundraiser to raise money for the wedding. The bridal party traditionally does a lot of the planning including selling tickets, getting prizes and setting up games. There are many names for a stag and doe, I.e., a jack and jill.

The only other events i know of are engagement parties (celebrating the engagement) which can be hosted by anyone, I think.

In addition to a bridal shower which is thrown usually by the bridal party or mother of the bride/groom. You could host a chill bridal shower with all the ladies you’re inviting! Depending on how many guests you would be inviting the options are endless!