Opinions on Evites- second wedding date

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Great advice, thank you. Sometimes I think we all get so caught up in what other people want and forget about ourselves.

I love the idea of a keepsake.

So we actually sent out save the dates to our wedding in nov. Of last year but now we found out was a horrible decision because of covid we had to change our venue .... (Now getting married at home ) we wish we would of held off but honestly I got to the point that everyone who got a save the date though the mail got a Facebook message from me apologizing and informing them of the venue change ... Everyone toke it really well that they just recieved a Facebook message I did however call and personally told all our close family.... It's covid every single woman who has gotten married over the hundreds of years gets how stressful wedding planning can be the last thing you should worry about is mailing out invites honestly everyone understands through these covid times that being a bride and planning a wedding is hard!!!! Do whatever is going to be less stressful to you!!! On the sentimental part we actually got a package through our photographer it's called the grandparent package it's a little book with places to put momentous and pictures from the wedding inside then you just gift it to them after we have one grandparent still left alive that won't make it to the wedding so we are mailing her one for her keepsake chest ... It's an idea and definitely something you could make yourself

My daughter had picked out invitations with a Hamilton design as she is a huge Hamilton fan.
We have since changed our minds and decided to do e-vites. It’s cheaper, keeps things organized in one place and there is an option (extra charge) where guest can download any photos they took and my daughter can print the ones she wants.

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Thank you so much for this Stacey. Evites definitely seem like the more logical thing to do especially with all the uncertainty. I do like the idea of editing the original paper invites for anyone who wants them.

We did E-save the dates followed by paper invitations for our original date - mostly because I love stationary, and had fun designing them! For our second date, I will be doing E-vites because (1) it's cheaper in terms of printing and mailing costs, (2) it seems like a waste to reprint the same invites (which our guests already received) with a new date, and (3) it's so difficult to know until last minute who you are actually able to invite given COVID restrictions. It's also easy to keep track of who actually received them if you use a service that has read receipts, and you can easily include a link to your website for up to date information. For keepsakes, I will edit our original invites and print a handful for ourselves and photographer.

View quoted message Thank you so much Hank. We did our first and second save the dates by email too so it really makes more sense to keep the trend going.

I'm team digital. Even pre-pandemic, we had no intention of sending paper invites. I collected everyone's emails before hand and was ready to send Save the Dates electronically until covid happened. Evites also allow for gentle reoccurring reminders to RSVP without you having to call each person and be pushy. They also cost next to nothing.

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Thank you so much.

I think evites are totally fine, especially since you're already communicating with all of your guests via email. It will save you a bunch of money and it's more convenient.

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Yes humor is needed so the tears stay away. That is why we work so well together, he always finds the humor when I need it.

Unfortunately no grandparents on either side. I think the most sentimental person would be my mom as I am her oldest child and the last to be married. In that case she could have the first invitation and I will cross out the date to write on the new one. BAHAHA. She will enjoy that one as I am also her most smart assed child. LOL.

Thank you so much.

I'm a sucker for getting mail that isn't bills, so I'm usually team paper. But I do like your fiances idea! It would be nice to add a little humor into an otherwise crummy situation.


It also sounds like these guests are now used to communicating with you guys digitally, so you might as well stick with that method since you know it works. Do you have a lot of sentimental family that might want a printed copy (grandmothers apparently love paper invites for the fridges)? If so maybe print a small batch for keepsakes for them and for yourselves.