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Newbie January 2020 Ontario

Open pre-wedding social with intimate wedding

David, on January 28, 2019 at 21:10 Posted in Before the wedding 0 7
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My fiancée and I really want a small wedding (close family members and friends, about 35) although our parents are insisting that we host some form of pre/post wedding party to at least include the family members who won’t be invited to the wedding. Would it be alright to host a social drop in event a few months before the wedding day? We are not searching for gifts or expecting those who come to sting us anything at all. Would this be taken the wrong way? We know most people have had intimate weddings and followed them with a post wedding reception at a later date, but that is not what we want. Thanks for your help!

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Latest activity by Bianca, on January 29, 2019 at 00:29
  • Bianca
    Master August 2019 Ontario
    Bianca ·
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    One of FH's friends eloped in some tropical destination then did a small reception at their home afterwards for their friends and we didn't think of it as a money-grab. We gave them a card with a little bit of money as a "congratulations" but didn't find it weird.

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  • Tori
    Top October 2019 Manitoba
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    I would stay away from the phrase social just because those are meant to make money - but I think a post wedding party is the way to go. Only thing about that is that it may be best that the invitations for the post-wedding party are received before your actual wedding date so people know that the party isn't an after thought.

    Host it kind of like a house warming or graduation party where it's just a casual drop in perhaps? Make some hors d'oeuvre and BYOB! Sounds like a fun time!

    P.S. Congrats on the engagement!

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  • Kaisha
    Super March 2019 Nova Scotia
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    I found a few suggestions on this site https://www.brides.com/story/reception-only-wedding-invitation-wording
    I really like something like this though,

    Blank and Blank will be married in a small ceremony on Saturday the sixth of October

    Please join us in celebration of their marriage at ...

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  • D
    Newbie January 2020 Ontario
    David ·
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    Yes you are right. That is just it, we are finding it a little tricky to get the wording right so people don’t get the wrong idea.
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  • Kaisha
    Super March 2019 Nova Scotia
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    This sounds great to me! It is not different then a social or stag and doe. People can celebrate and show their support without having it as a fundraiser.
    I would just find a way to word it so people know its a "party" in celebration of your big day.

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  • D
    Newbie January 2020 Ontario
    David ·
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    Thank you Leah!
    That is exactly what we wanted to hear. And also a good idea about no itinerary.
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  • Leah
    VIP April 2019 British Columbia
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    I love the idea of the social!

    I think what matters most is what you and your SO want, and those who want to celebrate with you will be there with bells on.

    Maybe even make it an open house social, so guests can come and go without a set itinerary?

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