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Rachael
Beginner August 2019 Alberta

Open Bar - Tip Jar

Rachael, on August 17, 2019 at 02:04 Posted in Wedding reception 0 4
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So tomorrow is my wedding and my fiancé wanted a tip jar on the bar. I am not a fan as I think it is tacky and my mom has graciously donated this. But my bigger problem is there are people who during our set up today (who didn’t decide to introduce themselves and acted like I was unwelcome) were like oh the sign isn’t there we’ll write it up and put the story there. Apparently they decided the money from this tip jar was going to some family in need that one of the bartenders knows (a second cousin of my fiancé’s) which isn’t what was completely decided. I feel like we leave it blank it’s just a sign from michaels with a hole in the too because it is my wedding day and I don’t want to have someone else’s drama on my day and it’s not really fitting at an open bar that my mom did. Advice of how to deal with this? I was going to have my brother take it off without anyone noticing and play it off like it fell. Wedding is tomorrow.

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Latest activity by Becky, on August 21, 2019 at 10:35
  • Becky
    VIP September 2019 Ontario
    Becky ·
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    I agree 100% thats not their place to do that at all!

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  • Bianca
    Master August 2019 Ontario
    Bianca ·
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    Wow, Rachael, you need to tell these people that your wedding isn’t a fundraiser for god-knows-who needs money. It is a wedding to celebrate you and your soon-to-be husband. People are sure to tip them whether or not there’s a sign, so just tell them they can keep the money and put it towards whatever they want, but you’re not having a tip jar or tacky sign.
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  • M
    Expert September 2019 Ontario
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    I re-read your post. So it isn't your fiance who wants the fundraising signs, it's some randoms? That's way easier!!! I would instruct the bartender (who works for you and takes direction from you and your fiance), and the bridal party that the sign is not permitted and must be removed immediately. I wouldn't dance around the issue or pretend it fell. Just "no".
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  • M
    Expert September 2019 Ontario
    Meaghan ·
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    I would be honest with your fiance and say that a wedding is not the place for fundraising and you are very uncomfortable with this plan.
    A gratuity should be given to the bartender but it should be covered in the bill (not via a tip jar). The bartender can then do whatever he wishes with his gratuity.
    I think your fiance is combining the idea of "tip" with a fundraising event. I would be very uncomfortable too. But I would suggest you discuss with your fiance rather than have a planned "accident" with the sign.
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