Not "legal" - Ceremony

I would think its fine and nothing wrong with the idea. Using the same rings which no one will realize and think you got them engraved for the 1 year mark.

I have 2 cousins who had court weddings and not a non-real wedding following with the families. One would be thinking to do the same idea as you since they want to just have family around for it.

View quoted message I would love to have my dad at my "legit" wedding, but it's not possible for most of my family to travel to us.

I agree with Tori about having the legit wedding first. Also I would have the actual wedding when your dad is walking you down the aisle but I know that my dad would be hurt if I did it any other way so that’s why I would do that.
For sure be honest with them though so they don’t find out later and be hurt by it regardless of what order you do it all in.

View quoted message Thanks, Tori and Caitlyn!

The wedding in Canada is for my family (Grandma is 80 and my dad would like to walk his daughter down the aisle). And, to be honest, I really want to wear the dress 🤗

The wedding will only be close friends and family - all of whom will know it's a "committment ceremony" (does that sound better?) and not a legal one.

The big thing here is being honest with your family and guests. Tell them the truth upfront that the ceremony they will be witnessing will not involve you legally getting married and that you will be getting legally married at some other place and time. People are less likely to feel misled or upset if you tell them ahead of time.

I agree with Tori, maybe having the legal wedding first would be best.

My FSIL had her heart set on having her aunt officiate her wedding, but she's not ordained. At the beginning of the ceremony her aunt addressed that she is not ordained and that the legal portion was to take place in front of an ordained officiant at another time (I am unsure when they actually got legally married though.) I was quite worried going into their ceremony that they would not address this at all, but luckily they did. However, I advise letting your guests in on this prior to the beginning of the ceremony.

I mean, I would for sure. Usually when people have a "for-show" wedding it is held after the actual legal one. You have to consider that they are getting your gifts (whether you ask for them or not - it is what is expected) for a newly married couple.

I know that not everybody will mind, but as for me I would probably give less presentation and make up for it when you actually get married by sending a card with more.

IMO I would say to have the legit wedding first (even if it is to be overseas where you currently reside) and then just a reception in Canada after you have tied the knot.