Moving in after marriage

Yes, indeed, it does help to figure things out as early as possible! Glad we could all help! The planning is going, a bit stalled for the moment as things are busy at work for both of us, so I am taking a bit of a breather and looking at ideas for the actually wedding day/decor, etc. Thanks for asking! Have a lovely week!

Hey Jason! I'm happy to see that you got some helpful comments in here already. Let us know how it goes! How's your planning going on your side too? Are you also both planning from a distance or you're in the same city?

Thanks Kacy lol yeah we like to plan our stuff ahead cuts down the stress by alot but appreciate the pointers helps a great deal Yeah she will definitely visit how's the planning going with you?

Hey Jayson! Congratulations on finding an apartment and signing the lease! All very exciting!! I agree with what has been said so far! I imagine that although your fiancee will move in after the wedding that she will still visit?

It will be tough and sometimes lonely but it is a great opportunity to find a rhythm, plus get you used to the not-so-fun-stuff like chores, cooking and budgeting! Not sure who will do most of the cooking or if you will share, but use this as a chance to build up your cleaning up skills LOL, cooking skills and recipe repertoire (if haven't yet done so) to impress your future wife once she moves in! This way you can practice with a little less stress because you will have less pressure on you since you can cook for yourself and tweak things without feeling bad if you messed up That being said, with the upcoming wedding and setting up the apartment, I am sure that you will spend lots of time together, so you may not have that much alone time.

When David and I first moved in together, he was with me for 2 weeks, then went on a research trip for 6 weeks, before he returned I had to go to Ottawa for 1 month so we weren't living together for 10 weeks! And since we have lived together, he or I have had several work trips/conferences, etc. Though it is always more fun to be together, as Lisa said, it's good to know and discover that we are capable of being on our own and organizing ourselves. Having been separated proved that we capable of just this, so now when either one of us has to go away, I know that I can handle being on my own when he's gone, and alternatively that he will be okay while I am gone. So there's that aspect too; of course because you love your fiancee, you will always be concerned with their well-being in general but it does remove being worried sick and stressed because you know that they will be okay until you get back anyways, great question, you guys sound like you have an amazing relationship! Good for you guys for planning ahead and getting the apartment now before the pre-wedding stress happens, and also sticking to your morals! You will be just fine, I am sure of it!

Very true Dana thank you!

Three months will fly by especially with it being the three months leading up to your wedding! It will be such a busy and exciting time you probably won't even have time to feel lonely

You are welcome! And Congratulations on your place!

Wow I never thought of it that way that's a really good point thanks Lisa

I was on my own for over 10 years before I found the right person to live with and marry. A lesson I've learned is this.. . You need to be just as comfortable being on your own, as you are living with someone else. The relationship you have with yourself is just a important as the one with your partner. So instead look at it from a different angle and use this time as a time of discovery! It will be uncomfortable at first but you will get the hang of it!

I see yeah I just feel it'll be the longest 3 months but I guess it won't be that bad if I kept busy it's tempting to just say let's move in before but got to stick to my morals are you close to your parents maybe visiting might help ease the loneliness?

Nope we both live in separate houses

I am in a similar situation right now. I'm living on my own currently and my fiancé and I will move in together after we get married. I'm finding it much lonelier than I expected and really not enjoying it right now. My fiancé and I are planning to adopt cats together and we were going to wait until after we got married but now we're thinking that we will adopt them before and they will live with me for a bit which I think will help. I'm not living in the apartment that we will eventually live in together yet but when I do move in there we will be working on decorating it together which I think will help as well. It will remind me that the living there alone isn't permanent. That's just how I've been feeling.

Did you live together previous to this?