Mother/groom father/bride dances

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Thank you, my sympathies to you as well. That is a great idea to have his aunt or his daughter both are great choices and he won't be left out.

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My sympathies on your Mothers passing, we are going to ask his aunt who will be almost 90 when we marry. Otherwise, I am going to suggest he dance with his daughter-that idea just came to me.....

My mom passed, when I was a teen, I am still having that moment with my dad it's something he's always wanted to do. If you FH has a sister or someone that was like a mother could step in. I am sure he wouldn't mind they know how important it is for parents.

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That is beautiful Stephanie!

We are going to have the father/daughter dance, and my FH will ask his aunt..

I'm in the same boat as your FH, my brother will take my dad's place (I also could with my FIL, but I am thrilled to do so with my brother). And my FH will with his step mother (his mom passed the day before we started dating)

I love the idea of keeping certain traditions. I think if it’s important to you to have your father not feel left out, I think you should go for it. Discuss with FH and see if there is another option he may want to explore for himself (dancing with a relative or member of your family etc.) but if not, go for the dance. I think it will be a special moment for the two of you.


My dad passed two weeks before we got engaged- my FH wanted to dance with his mom, so, I’ll be dancing with my father in law instead- he is alsoWalking me down the aisle 🙂

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Thank you Carmel, we talked about having a grandmother/grandson dance but at 106 years old and a bad hip we have decided that is not going to work...perhaps we will discuss it with his aunt and see if she would be up for it and interested- at 86 she is still quite spry

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Thanks Rayanne,

I think I will have my father/daughter dance, and since we still have a lot of time this is an issue we can circle back to later...

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Good morning Hank,

No he hasn't, it will be one of those days when he will wish they were still here. I appreciate your perspective as always.

One of my best friends didn't have a mother/groom dance while his wife danced with her father. She wanted to do it but he felt weird about dancing with his mom.

Has your fiance expressed feeling left out of wedding activities? Ask him what he thinks of the situation. Unless he's very peculiar about both of you having an equal share in everything wedding related, I doubt he'll mind you having a moment with your father. If anything, your fiance may even appreciate the fact that you can still share such a moment with your father.

I'm so sorry that you're on this situation and have experienced such loss. I think this is something you need to discuss with your fiance and not something we can help you with other than supporting what you feel is right for your wedding. It sounds like it's very important to you and I can't imagine a supportive fiance not being on board... maybe together you can come up with something that will help him honour his mother and have a special moment too.

I think you should have the dance if you want to. You can ask your FH how he feels about it. Not every couple has to have all the extra dances. We are forgoing all dances except the first dance. Even when my FMIL was alive with her mobility issues she had there is no way she'd have wanted everyone watching her and FH dancing. I am not even inviting my father to my wedding so we decided just to not do them. If my FH and FMIL had wanted to have that dance I wouldn't have minded at all.