We have already had an engagement party. My step sister threw it. Everyone except my mother was in attendance. At the time her and my step dad were amidst a very turbulent divorce. I was the one who decided it best she not be invited. There were 3 other people she is not on speaking terms with attending as well, and it was a small event of like 15 people. I did not want it to be focused on her drama.
However now she wants to throw me a wedding or bridal shower. Even though the other event was last summer. I feel bad making my wedding party and family attend another function. Especially one where gifts are expected. Plus if she holds it where we live friends and family will have to travel 1.5 Hours. Or if she holds it there we still have my FH's family and our friends who will have to travel again there.
Does anyone have suggestions as to how I can make her feel included or something without having to have another formal event everyone is obligated to go to? Or some sort of brunch or something instead?