Maid of honour vs bridesmaid?

Being a MOH has more responsibilities but doesn't have to pay any additional money. The dresses they usually purchase themselves and as for the parties, it is typically a group effort.

Its more work not more cost.

I would expect it to be more work but not to cost more. She might be the one to book things like a hotel for the bachelorette on her credit card but with the expectation that the other bridesmaids will pay her back for their portions.

I would say financially it isn't that different - just means that you are the one booking things and taking the cost at first until you can get the other BM's to pay you their part.

Engagement party = we didn't have one, and if we had then we would have payed for that ourselves

Bridal shower = Moms paid for

Bachelorette = All girls other than Bride pay their part, but the MOH is the main planner and therefor putting the down payments and whatnot down for everybody until payed back.

I have been MOH in 2 weddings, you take the financial burden for mostly everything. They pay basically for all the expenses for herself and the Bride for the Bachelorette (such as food, drinks, entertainment, special outfit or tshirts, etc.). They host the engagement party (if there is one), help the mother-of-the-bride or grooms mother with the bridal shower. And help with whatever needs to be done for the wedding! My MOH hosted a surprise engagement party for us at a restaurant and paid for my fiance and I's brunch, along with our 3 kids brunch. A little much to me but she wanted to do it!

MOH has more to deal with as for planning the events for the bride. Consider the position as the right hand person to the couple as the BM (Best Man) has the same to do for the Groom. There are costs of the bridal shower, bachelorette and dress expense if occurred to be covered by you. Any projects/DIY getting done is also a team effort with all the bridal party there.

You would be assigned by the Bride what needs to be covered and theme decided upon the events wanted. A speech is also given at the reception and/or rehearsal dinner upon the choice given.

In my personal experience being both a bridesmaid and MOH you definitely spend more money as a moh. Reason being is because if the brides family isn’t taking care of the engagement party it usually will fall next on the moh. She’s also in charge of planning the bachelorette and bridal shower which yes should be divided by all bridesmaids but sometimes things fall through the cracks and the moh is stuck with the remaining bill. Again this is just my experience but I’m sure in certain circumstances a bridesmaid and moh could spend the same budget!