Maid of honor

Have the face to face talk and let her know how ypu feel about her not taking on her part of the work. Make plan B happen quick and assure yourself to see things go smoothly.

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Wow your bridesmaids sound horrible!

I think most people in bridal parties do not know what is expected of them when asked. If they were given a list of duties first, then told, "If you can commit to these things, I would love to have you in my wedding party", maybe brides and grooms would receive more help. Most bridesmaids think they just need to buy a dress and show up. Their job is done. I agree with the others, have a face to face conversation.

I am IN your shoes right now so I know exactly how you feel. I even gave her an out when she said she was busy 6 months ago and they assured me they would step up to the plate.
I'm 4 weeks from my wedding and I'm about to seriously have a mental breakdown. They have not responded to 6+ emails on important information could not find a day for 2 of us to go shopping for Dress, mens outfits (husbands are. I'm the party), shoes, jewelry, too busy to help with wedding Favours, centrepieces, dinner name plate tags, too busy to throw me a shower or Bachlorette. I have taken everything upon my myself and I'm exhausted.
In 9 months I have not seen them for anything wedding related and this is the wedding party! They don't respond to text or emails.
So my advice from you is to politely say as my maid of honour I need someone committed to assist me - the bride not only on my wedding day but things I require of you leading up to my wedding day such as ........... I understand you are busy we are all busy myself included and I need someone who would like to support me both physically and spiritually . I understand you have too much on your plate to fully commit to what I need. So to make it easier on you and myself i am going to ask someone who is more committed to helping me. I hope you understand.
I'm bitchy right now as a result so something like that but I'm in your situation so my tone right now may not be the best
Good luck
I'd do it soon before you wind up like me doing everything and becoming super stressed and overwhelmed

Never an easy conversation, but you need to have it with her. You want someone who is wholeheartedly there to stand up and support you on you day and if she just can’t commit the time, for whatever reason, you need to let her know that it won’t work for you.

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I agree have a heart to heart with her, if she is good friend she will actually say no i'll make the time, and if she can't then you have the right to ask someone else.

I would just sit her down and talk in person. Definitely a conversation that needs to happen face to face. And just explain why, and if she cant accept that, she is not a good friend.