Lived with your partner before wedding or after?

No we are not living together until we are married. Right now we are living with our parents, we did buy a house that should be ready before the wedding and we will move in tigether after the wedding.

View quoted message Hi Tunisha we are very excited to get married and live together. Right now commuting to work is hectic once we are married and settled in to married life, it will be so much easier for us.

View quoted message Hello Nelly & Raquel!
Ohhhhhh yes!! This is nice!!!!!
How do you feel about it??

Hi Tunisha we will only be living together after we are married

Hi there, Tunisha. And congrats with your wedding. In my ipinion it's better to live with you partners before wedding. Why? In this article - https://blablawriting.net/wedding-cake-model-essay i read that you should try to live with your partner to get to know him better. Also in that article i found good advices for making wedding cake.

View quoted message Thank you so much for your response Jenny! 💕
Really appreciate all your inputs. Totally understand and agree with you. I would say that our main arguments are about misunderstanding, communication and little bit of money. I understand where he stand on money and do does he. But it’s still a challenge anyways. It’s been going on 3 months or being in each other’s face all day everyday. So we’re working it out one day at a time. I think also understanding that we’re going to keep learning about each other.

So I’ve been living with my fiancé since April 2017 (we also have two kids together - March 2018 and June 2020). No lie it was tough when we first moved in together. He liked sleeping with the tv on and I absolutely could not do that. He had higher cleanliness standards than I was used to (we’re about the same for that now or if anything I prefer things cleaner lol). He prefers staying home for date night while I prefer going out. Not going to lie at one point I didn’t know if we would stay together but we worked through it. Biggest thing is communication. If you don’t say there’s a problem then how is your partner supposed to know there’s a problem? It also helps to learn your partner’s argument style - are they the type that needs to cool down before having a calm discussion? Do they prefer to sleep on things? We’ve been living together going on five years now and I’d say most of our arguments were caused by bad communication, misunderstanding, and lastly money.

View quoted message Thank you so much Monica! Oh yes, that’s a great suggestion. I spoke to him the other day about this and we’re working on something. Since we started dating we always had Friday as our date night. And just really spend time with each other. Now we’re in each other’s face, it’s a new learning curve! Really appreciate all the good inputs! 🙏🏾😁💕

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Oh yay, Tunisha I'm so happy this has been helpful Of course, every couple is different so you need to create a groove that works for the two of you. I know some couples do longer weekend dates instead of a daily date, and to be honest, if we didn't work partially from home daily dates probably wouldn't be so feasible.

If your hubs tends to seem uninterested in your suggested activities, maybe ask what joint activities he would enjoy doing. We've had lots of fun doing things that we can either teach to the other (video games, yoga...etc.) or learn from square one together. Best of luck!

View quoted message Hello Monica,
Ohhhh my goodness! This is amazing! Thank you so much for your insight and sharing this. I really appreciate it. My hubby tends to just shrug things off (I call him boring at times) as he doesn’t fully open for certain things or I’ll have to mention it 10 times. It’s frustrating. Because I’m always up for doing things or having that little fun. I like how you mentioned the days for intentional connections, will definitely work on that for sure, while including the other ideas you have mentioned. I really appreciate this a lot, thanks so much for sharing.

Hi Tunisha! (nice to e-meet you)

So fun, love this discussion.

My FH and I have never not lived together! We met as RA's in University, living in the same building. We got together and 6 months later moved into an apartment with two other roommates. A year after that we moved cross-country and stayed with his family for a few months before getting our own apartment. Living together is wonderful. There's lots to learn along the way, and the dynamic will change multiple times. But's here are a few insights:

- Values: start here, for your values motivate how you live, what you eat, how much you sleep, how you connect...etc. Our shared values include: connection, which motivates our honesty policy, daily dates (see below) as well as our alone time, living a low-impact lifestyle which defines what and how we consume, and so many more. Your values will define how you decorate, shop, clean...etc so taking the time to identify them is key.

- Task ownership: you'll find yourselves naturally inclined to doing different tasks (laundry, dishes, bill payments...etc.). The more frequently you do a task the more you 'own' that task, or in other words, the less likely your SO will be to do that task. So, discuss which tasks you each want to own and which you want to share.

- Routines: everyone's daily routine is different and changes overtime. It is super useful to discuss routines (wake-up times, workout, meal planning, bed times...etc.) with your partner so that you can each support each other in achieving your routine goals. And share when you want to change your routine, ex., if you want to start going to sleep earlier. This really helps keep each other on track to being your best selves!

- Intentional connection: when living together (and working from home) you're around each other a LOT! And that can be wonderful! It can also seem like you're spending less intentional time together and more time simply around each other. We do 'daily dates' which means each day we do something fun together, no matter what. Sun = walk around the neighborhood, Mon = crossword puzzle, Tues = mini presentation on something interesting...and so on. It's an awesome way to connect and engage in shared values.

Sorry that was a lot! I just love this topic!

I was already living on my own in my own condo when I first met my fiance almost 7 years ago. He moved in a couple of weeks after that lol but we honestly love living together of course there's always some little things that get on your nerves like socks everywhere and clothes not making it to the laundry hamper but beside it lol My fiance works in the oil fields so he's not home very much and I work 2 jobs so we're not home very much to argue too much. We bought a house just over 2 years ago and we absolutely love it! It's your own freedom and such!

View quoted message Totally agree!
We do have to work on our communication. I know when he’s had enough or don’t want to talk. So I leave, then return to solve the issue. I’m the main one that tries to solve things and compromise a lot. But that’s fine, I try my best to make sure all is well.

I believe living together will be a challenge but we’ll work it out!

View quoted message Thats the thing about knowing what each other likes and behaves to draw the line moving forward. I hope you two have a good understanding now to avoid any miscommunication. Rules do help to know when one gets upset. Take a breather and come back when ready to talk calmly.

View quoted message Oh yes!!!!
I’m happy that it’s all working out well!
That’s the thing eh, we have to adjust to two people under the same roof. Haha!
Wish me luck!

View quoted message Yes over time and with will power. His anger calmed down major along to communicate better though it needs some work still.

View quoted message Thank you so much for sharing Vinod!! 😁
How is it going so far? Things were able to change slowly overtime?

I moved in with my fiancé before the wedding and we faced many challenges. Some were anger issues he was facing and making changes/sacrifices towards our relationship. Financially, it wasn't good and to show nothing of it as it seemed to going faster than ever and desires to get than important things.