Last Minute Show Ups-help!

I would contact ppl who havent rsvp'd... id be like i need to know we have to have our final numbers you have to tell me yes or no... i dont see why it has to be a last minute thing.... you dont want a huge group of 8 or more people showing up and getting mad or leaving or causing a scene that they have no where to sit!

Everyone else said it perfectly! I think that some people are just bad at things like RSVP-ing (it doesn't make it okay, but it's just something that's true). I was until I started planning my own wedding and understood all the planning that went into everything!

Hahah chair and sandwich.. that's amazing

I agree with everyone else here - RSVP deadlines are there for a reason and I'd reach out personally over the phone and ask it they are yes or no. If they can't commit, you'll unfortunately have to mark them as no since you need your seating chart/catering numbers by a certain date.

Like Amanda said, you're not being rude. The guests that think they can just leave RSVPing to the last minute are!

Contact them ASAP. You need to know numbers before giving the final count to your venue.

Some guests really do not understand that they need to give an RSVP sooner rather than later. I still like the post I have seen floating around Facebook that says if you did not RSVP please bring your own chair and sandwich!

I would contact them ASAP and request for an answer. I get that things might change last minute, but that's up to them to figure out and shouldn't be your problem.

You could either ask for an answer on the spot, or tell them that if you don't hear back by 'x date' that they'll be chalked down as 'no' and that no extra plates will be available for last minute show ups.

Not rude at all! This is a wedding and everybody knows that there is an RSVP by deadline for a reason. You need numbers in not only for the seating chart but for the food as well.

I wouldn't have your FH's sister talk to them though - I would your FH and yourself call them to avoid any miscommunication and it's harder to avoid answering the question when it's the Bride and Groom asking. That's when you tell them you need to know now or they will be put down as a no and are more than welcome to attend after supper. Just make sure you CALL if possible so that you get the answers asap over messages that they can ignore or claim they didn't see.

I agree! There are RSVPs for a GOOD reason! I understand things happen last minute but honestly guests should know they the price is by head and if they don't have the right counts by the right time there can be missing seats or over paying. Our wedding was last weekend and honestly, we had a few last minute no shows and then a vendor brought some extra help and my mom invited 2 people last minute the day of! Ended up balancing out for us TBH! Unfortunately you cannot predict what people will do or force them to RSVP, just do the best you can with the numbers you get and if people show up who forgot to RSVP yes... well they can just smell the dinner from afar!

I wouldn't buy extra for possible show ups.. and to the people that said it will be a last minute decision - there are rsvp dates for a reason so I would have the sister tell them unfortunately, there won't be a seat for them then as you need to have your final numbers in. Or sure, tell them yourself.. but 100% I would make sure they knew there would be no seat and no food.. you don't just get to decide last minute if you're going to go, people are planning around this... so thoughtless