Kids at the top table?

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Haha fair enough!

We are having our niece and nephew (5 and 2 when we get married) at our head table simply because we love being around them. But to be fair we won't be responsible for them for the most part, their dad will also be at the head table. So it's really up to you! If you want them there I say go for it, but if not, it's nothing to feel guilty about!

View quoted message I definitely love our kids and want them to be included but I for sure don’t want to handle feeding them on the big day. I think I’m going to go over my guest list again and put all the grandparents at one big table with our kids 😊

There's nothing wrong with them sitting at the table with you if that's what you want. They're obviously a massive part of your life and your marriage and it makes sense they'd be a big part of the day.

But if you wanted a break from parent duties during dinner or if you just want to spend that time alone with your partner, I also think there's nothing wrong with seating them with relatives they're comfortable with and don't mind watching them.

Years ago, I was hired as a babysitter for the wedding day for the bride's daughter (4 yo I think). I knew the kid well and was there for the whole day right from them getting ready. I remember we were at the same table as the parents.

She wasn't only my responsibility on the wedding day but it did help when everyone else was needed elsewhere (for photos etc) or when she was getting bored.

I would sit them with a set of parents or family. Although you love your kids do you want to spend your night feeding and caring for them? Maybe have a trusted family member do this?

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Can you seat them with just your parents?

View quoted message The problem with that is that my in-laws are divorced.

Seat them at a table with both sets of grandparents?