Joint Stag and Doe?

View quoted message We did $10 tickets because if we sold 100 we would make back the money for renting the venue and buying food from just that. We also made the drink tickets $1.50 more than each beer would cost us so that each drink paid for itself as well.

View quoted message We would be doing it in one day. I am thinking we may do a 5 dollar entry fee and then maybe a dollar or two if they want to pick another card. We will see my fiancé plays it at work. My fiancé’s family is going to help out with the party so that relieves any financial trouble.

Haha I grew up in an area where Stag & Doe's are not just common, but expected and literally half the county comes out whether they know the couple well or not. When I try to explain to my friends, fiancee, etc what a S&D is they are totally perplexed by the concept lol

It's too bad they're not a thing here - back home couples make a buttload of money off them and it goes a really long way toward paying for the wedding

As for having a joint one? Heck, why not?

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I'd never thought of splitting the day! I'm going to bring that up, thanks!!

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A potluck is such a good idea!! If you don't mind my asking, how are you doing the chase the ace? I'm from ON and have only seen them when I got to NFLD so I haven't had a ton of exposure to them. Are you doing it all in one night as opposed to pulling one card a week? I'm super curious and may have to copy

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True, I'm hoping some randoms do show up because I've definitely seen people lose money!

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I'd never thought of the "their" bride/groom and that's a super valid point. We are from a really small town and that's why I'm a bit worried about not having a big turnout with just me and my FH

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I love the idea of "both brides" vs "both grooms"!! Also I had never heard that your tickets should pay for venue/food but that makes total sense, so I'm glad you mentioned it! Thanks!!

My only thought when I initially read this was... what is some of your friends, or their friends, donate/spend/give more money, and somehow things get twisted where someone is upset their donation didn't go to "their" bride and groom, or whatever...

Are you from a smaller town? Could you possibly make it even bigger as a joint, 2 couple event, where you invite total strangers? Have it at a local restaurant/bar and hopefully some lovely, friendly drunk people contribute as well? Haha.

Stag and Does don't happen in BC... so I'm not toooo familiar with it... I would definitely take advantage of the ability to receive support/help towards your wedding!

I think it would be fine if you could split everything 50/50 with the other couple.
We did things like "vote who gets a pie in the face" and it was the groom or the bride but you could do either 4 separate jars or "both brides" and "both grooms". You would also have to make sure that all the prices (tickets, games, drinks) were all equal prices. But it could totally work!
one thing we were told when we were planning ours was to plan for the costs of entry tickets to cover the cost of the venue and food.
Good luck 😊

A joint S&D isn't a bad idea and split the money afterwards. If each of you have wedding parties, ask each member to come up with a prize or basket and raffle them off. The 50/50 prize draw can be a split cost purchase by and your friend.

If he’s not comfortable with it I would ask why and then if you can’t come to a compromise I would skip it. I come from where they are common but they are a lot of work and you cane easily loose money at them if your not well prepared and have to put up a lot of money yourself or prizes.

Why not see about having the bridal party sell tickets before and open the invite to anyone? Where I am from it’s pretty common for people who don’t know the couple to still come out as it’s usually a fun night out with cheaper drinks than going to the bar.

We are going to have a stag and doe, and I don’t see a problem with doing a joint one. As long as you are splitting the cost and the money you make. We are having a bbq and will provide hot dogs and hamburgers and said it’s a potluck so people can bring other stuff so it’s less cost for us. We won’t be selling tickets, but we will be having lots of different games for people to play. Save the bride, save the groom from a pie in a face, whichever has more money gets to pie the other in the face. The liquor toonie toss. We may set up a janga tournament and possibly a beer pong tournament. 50/50 and chase the ace and potentially a silent auction.

We are having it to raise money for our wedding party, because I mean it’s costly to be in a wedding and what not and some may not have as much as others and we want to help cover hair, makeup, jewelry and ties, pocket squares, cufflinks etc. It’s just thoughtful in my opinion and then we have more money that we can spend on other things we want.

If your FH isn't really into it would he consider sharing the day? Have their's or yours for the first couple hours followed by the opposite? It really comes down to his reasoning of why not do a joint stag and doe. If it's because he want's his very own then perhaps you just bite your tongue and do your own regardless of who shows up - but I say push! lol If you guys are friends then as a guest I would love to kill two birds with one stone.