Is the ring too big and other worries

View quoted message Thanks for the reply! To update I took the advice here and shook off the judgement, it's our time and we worked hard for this and I've been enjoying showing it off. I hope you're managing to stay afloat in these crazy times. I can't even imagine how stressful this must be for all the ladies who were supposed to get married 😥❤️

I know I'm late. I don't care. The ring is beautiful. This is your time. I hope you're showing it off and excited. It's hard to get past that lifelong conditioning of being humble, it's difficult not to concern yourself with the insecurities of your loved ones, it's tough not to worry that some people might think you care more about the ring than the impending marriage. This is your time. He bought it for you. You waited long enough and you both deserve to show it off.

I hope you're doing okay during this insane moment in history. - Aly

Edit - I just realized I already replied to this months ago but I can't seem to delete this now so oh well

I have a tiny finger I had a big ring my Center stone was 3 and I showed it off I don’t feel uncomfortable as it was giving to me out of love I am proud to show it off anytime any day any where .

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What the heck, that is one of the prettiest ring shapes I have ever seen! I would not be self conscious of that-show it off!! You have spent enough years together to show that baby off

Same girl!
I dont bother showing it off when with people. If they notice they notice, if not then they dont.
I've had people ask if it is costume jewellery cause it's big and I look young. The faces when I tell them it isnt is priceless! People will always find a reason to make a comment about something.

Enjoy your moment!. Dont worry about others! Your ring is gorgeous and your man spent his hard earned money to give you something perfect!! well worth the 10 year wait!

Soon you wont even realize it is big and when new people see it and tell you it's gorg, itll give you new excitement all over again!

View quoted message Love this answer!! You are so right!! I'm getting more used to people asking to see it and the reactions now so it's fun again 😁

Who cares!!!!!! post that ring girl!! f what other people think!!!! your fiance took a long time cuz he put sooo much thought effort and MONEY into it!! dont feel uncomfortable about it at ALL!! its your time to shine girl!!!

We have been together for 13 years when we got engaged so girl I totally understand...you DESERVE this moment and do not let anyone take this moment away from you. Show that beauty off. Its a symbol of your love and it is stunning.

If the ring bothers you that much talk to your fiancee. Most jewelers have an exchange policy in place.

Your ring is beautiful! I felt very self-conscious about my ring too (not too big, just very sparkly), but I eventually got used to it. Now just wait until you add a wedding band to it, you'll be self-conscious all over again (at least I was!).

It’s absolutely stunning! My fiancé and I waited a week to make a Facebook post. I felt like I wanted to celebrate privately a bit, before the bombardment of congratulations and everybody having an opinion (even if it’s a good one). You’re perfectly entitled to that. And after 10 years, you absolutely deserve to brag!
Congratulations!

You could always announce your engagement without a picture of your ring if you’re uncomfortable. People will talk no matter what. They’ll say it’s too small.. too big.. as long as you love it, that’s all that matters.

First off, don’t be ashamed of your ring, it is beautiful and as long as you love it, that is all that matters.

I was a little ashamed of mine as it is not a large ring, however it is larger than what I wanted but a perfect size for me.

I feel like no matter the size of the ring, it is hard to decide what and how to post on social media. Honestly, my partner and I didn’t bother with the big announcement. We got engaged January 1st in Australia, and didn’t tell anyone until we got home mid April because we didn’t want everyone to bug us with all the questions while we were away. We told everyone we wanted to in person and in May my fiancé posted a gif he made of a toilet stall lock that went from “vacant” to “engaged”, no comment, no hashtag just tagged me in it. If it wasn’t for us changing our Facebook status a month later, I am sure some people still would know.

We we still haven’t posted much, but we are less worried about hiding the ring in photos now that it is out there.

I did feel this way too ! I kept it to myself unless someone noticed lol my ring is pretty big too ... i had all the jokes I still get them and Ive been engaged for over a year now my favourite comment was “omg you will need physiotherapy for your hand girl “
i just laugh
i got the ring that i wanted to me thats all that matters

Like others have said, you deserve to be happy! If your bling is huge, all the power to you! Others shouldn't be making you feel guilty about it, especially if they're aware your business has had a strong year. (Even if they aren't aware, it's none of their damn business!)

It's a stunning ring, by the way! You pull it off well.

View quoted message Yeah you deserve to be happy just because you waited for something nice and they didn't doesn't mean that you dont get to be happy. Sucks to be them.

Honestly I love this community! Thanks to all the wonderful ladies who weighed in here. I feel much better about the whole thing. You all made me realize I have to try to enjoy this moment and damn what everyone else thinks. It's my ring, I love it and if someone has a bad reaction that's not my problem.

I still have to do a post cause I have family all over the world who gets updated through FB but first I can chill, there's no rush. I can take some time to get comfortable with it before I put it all out there.

View quoted message I totally feel you, that's part of my thing too. Most of the girls in my circles pushed for a ring asap so most of my family, friends, FSIL (who just got her ring a year ago and often says she hates it), ended up with something minimalist or small. I've been feeling kind of uncomfortable showing mine off but I guess you're right it's probably just my own insecurities. I just gotta brush it off.

View quoted message Makes me feel better knowing I'm not the only one feeling this way 🤗

View quoted message Thanks for this, really made me realize I should care less what everyone else thinks!

Sometimes when I show my ring to my FH's friends or family in particular I feel like I'm bragging with my ring. I feel like it's quite extravagant and most of his family and friends that are married or engaged have very minimalistic rings. I still love it and think it's perfect but it is a little awkward sometimes. It's probably my own insecurity.

I DEFINITELY felt this way!! I'm so glad to hear someone else putting it into words. I had a hard time telling people, not because I wasn't thrilled, I just have a hard time with the attention and not feeling braggy. Even still, mentioning wedding planning I am very conscious who I talk to and try to limit the amount. I really hope I can get over the wallflower thing before the big day!

I wish I had some advice for you, it has definitely gotten easier and more natural feeling after a few weeks. Your ring is beautiful by the way!!

Don't let it stress you out. The ring is beautiful. I'm sorry some people are having a negative reaction. Big ring or small ring as long you and FH are happy everyone should just be happy for you! You'll never please everyone as they say.

First of all - CONGRATS, and your ring is gorgeous and if people don't have something nice to say they should learn to keep their mouths shut. Like the others said; you deserve to treat yourselves to a vacation and a nice ring!

When I posted about my engagement I only got a few side comments like that where it was a "congrats" but with a side of "why? you're too young to know what love is"... Just have to move past the haters!

I also didn't post a ring pic but I did post a pic of us on our engagement night and have posted pictures where I am wearing my ring. I have posted here on WW a close up of my ring but just not on social media. I know my ring is flawed because it's customized and it just felt weird to post a pic of my hand when my fingers are so chubby

I usually handle being the centre of attention well because I love being in it - but when rude comments are made I'm very blunt and tell them what's what and how I would never say such a thing to them.

That ring is gorgeous girl! Such a beautiful shape!! After 10 years together, you deserve to be spoiled, and anyone saying that it's too much is peanut butter and jealous.

Also it is definitely an adjustment having people always be focused on you in the lead up to the wedding. I am a bit of a socially awkward hermit, so having people that I barely know ask about my hair, my dress, etc is just SO weird and uncomfortable for me. I found that just trying to stay positive and cheerful about things and remembering that weddings are exciting for everyone involved, not just the bride and groom, helps me avoid hiding in the basement at any and all gatherings.

As far as social media goes, we definitely posted an announcement and a photo, but it was a farther out shot of the two of us, so the ring wasn't quite as front and center.

First of all your ring is beautiful! don't ever feel bad for showing it off.

I have the same feelings with my ring. I have little hands so it looks huge. Especially in my line of work, I feel bad wearing it, but depending on the person I will turn it in. Other than that, I show that thing off!

I did post a ring picture on social media once we told all our close family, and it still seems weird calling him my Fiance, I think saying Husband will come much easier to me. lol.

It will take some time getting used to it all

You are a lucky woman that ring is gorgeous! and you deserve it! after 10 years of being together you're finally getting married and he spoiled you! thats awesome I was a little nervous/awkward sharing my news with certain people as well, or showing off my ring to some people because I also got a huge ring, and I have smaller hands so it looks even bigger. but hey, he's your man and you're getting married and you're not bragging, its just your time to shine! embrace it because you'll be married soon and the fiance phase will be gone and I wish I wasn't so worried about what other people thought while I was engaged.. I would have done things differently but it will take some getting used too. everyone around you will be excited, they aren't going to judge you for having a beautiful ring, if anything they might be jealous

congrats tho!!

It’s definitely a different transition. I’ve been engaged for almost a year and I rarely refer to my FH as fiancé. So I get how you’re feeling.

I did post a picture with my FH to announce our engagement but after we had told everyone we needed to by phone and FaceTime.

I actually didn’t go out of my way to tell anyone, like I wore my ring for a week before I even told my boss (had to give him a heads up so I can take some time off next year!!). It honestly takes some time to get used to.

for now, enjoy the moment!! go at your pace!

Here's a pic of the ring. I've seen way nicer and bigger (some on this site) so I didn't think it was crazy big but some people's reactions are going on as it's so extravagant. I just hate people making a fuss over me and I thought I'd be more excited, I don't even know why this is stressing me out so much!