Ok, so im very nervous and anxious to even open up about this. I have been with my partner for 16yrs. Long story short there has been alot of discussion about marriage. We have a beautiful 5 1/2yr old daughter. We are going on a trip with friends and my partner after lots of discussion suggested we elope on the trip. Not exactly how I pictured getting married but when do things ever go to plan? So I agreed.
Well only recently have I been second guessing myself. I tried talking to him but he just seemed to get frustrated and upset (this was through messenger- I asked to talk in person and he said he prob won't and then continued to talk in messenger though). Basically to narrow it down, I asked if he wanted to marry me because I didn't want him to resent me. He keeps telling people who ask that it's important to me to get married so that's why his doing it. I think it's great his doing something that's important to me but I don't want him to resent me. I also am starting to hate him saying that. I always dreamed that the man of my dreams would be waiting at the end of the aisle excited to marry me. Also the fact it seems and I qoute him 'I over used my emotional drama so he has become insensitive to my emotional emotions'. If it's something physical and he can see me in pain or my pet in pain his great but something like this, he just thinks I'm being ridiclious and should be grateful that his now giving me what I want. Anyway just wanted your guys opinions, out of respect for him I thought I would ask on here and only few people know we are eloping and partner doesn't like when I air our dirty laundry to family and friends. I just wanted to know people's opinions if this is cold feet or something for cause for concern?