Invitation / rsvp Anxiety

Our RSVP date was today (wedding is a month away) and we have only a handful of RSVPs. We are planning to give a few more days as some invitations went out late but not a lot more time. Like someone else mentioned you need definite numbers for catering/seating.

View quoted message Thanks Darbi

I wouldn't spend the money on redoing your invitations but in my experience you will have to chase people down no matter how far in advance you put the date. A week or two before you need final numbers just reach out to everyone you haven't heard from. I had my deadline two months before the wedding and still had lots of people I had to contact. You'll still get people a few days before your wedding letting you know if they're making it or not but it'll all work out!

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Thanks Lisa. Yes agreed. I have changed my deadline for 6 weeks before the wedding. This gives me more time. Either way, I will probably have to chase a few people. And those will probably be the ones I email their invite LOL.

View quoted message I didn’t give a late deadline it’s 6 weeks out from my wedding and I only need final numbers 2 weeks out. I was just saying it’s shocking how many people wait until that rsvp deadline to respond. So the fact that Julie needs final numbers 2 weeks before the date that’s on the rsvp currently means there’s a risk that they won’t come in early enough and it’s better to redo them.

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To be fair, if you give someone a late deadline, you can't be annoyed at them for leaving the decision until said deadline.

View quoted message Thank you for the info. Yes only a handful are paper invites. I changed my rsvp cards but will hold off on sending anything till at least 2-3 months before the date

Do you have online reservation…or a website? Do you have a list of all your attendees and their email addresses? That is the EASIEST way to go. I only did paper invites for a handful of guests. I would just shoot emails saying…one more week to book hotel rooms. Or RSVPs due by this date. And leave it at that. Adults can make you run around asking the same questions over and over again and you already have so much on your plate. Also, it’s better to send out invitations two months before the wedding date. Anything further out is the invite getting buried in bills.

If the price isn't too great I would resend them.

View quoted message I think to be on the safe side, I will re order the rsvp's and change that date. Good thing i won't be out too much money in doing this

I would possibly redo the rsvp's. We had about 15 people at the very end of our rsvp deadline respond. You don't want to be stuck in a bind.

I’d redo the rsvp insert if possible.
Our deadline is August 22 and we’re still waiting on 11 people. I sent a reminder 1 week out when we were still waiting on 34.
I’m actually shocked how late people leave it to rsvp

View quoted message Perhaps I will wait longer before sending out the invites.

Almost all of our guest list waited to respond till closer to the deadline. A week before the deadline we only had like 15% of RSVPs. I did send everyone a reminder a week before and then we got almost all RSVPs within 2 days

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If I redo anything, it would be the RSVP's which weren't that much on Vistaprint. It's a RSVP postcard so they have the option to snail mail, email or visit the website.

Is it a major cost to redo it? I personally get annoyed when I'm nudged for an RSVP well ahead of the listed deadline and if you're asking for snail mail RSVPs, a lot of people will leave it til the last minute. Even online RSVPs won't all come in at the beginning, especially since you gave them such a long reservation window.