i need some advice

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Thanks for the advice =)

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Thanks for the advice.

Yes, only immediate family will attend. We will no longer have a bridal party anymore.

My MOH (my sister) would have been planning the bachelorette, but I don't think I will have one anymore seeing as in BC you have to vaxxed to go anywhere pretty much...so there isn't much to do. You can't go to wineries or bars, etc if you don't have the jab. So unfortunate.

I don't think I'd have a full bridal shower or bachelor/bachelorette party. Is it possible to do something small with the close family that will be there? Maybe your closest friends? It's hard for me to answer because we have never had any of the extra parties planned. I may do a wine tour with a few of my closest friends for a bachelorette party (so no one has to worry about gifts) but that will be a maximum of maybe 10 people I'm thinking.

Hosting and inviting someone to a shower without inviting them to a wedding will be seen as a gift grab. Though you say you're planning to host a reception in a few years, the reality is things can change and you may end up changing your mind (especially if you're waiting for it to be completely covid restriction free). I just don't think it'll sit well with a lot of people.

I would say a bachelorette party is okay, especially since you're letting people know you're getting married. You mentioned the ceremony will only be attended by immediate family so does that include your bridal party? Are they planning your bachelorette party or are you doing it? If you're doing it yourself, I would keep how much you're expecting people to spend in mind.

I think this really depends on you. If the people attending these parties aren't invited to your ceremony I would probably wait, or maybe do one this year and one the year of your reception?

I think it's still appropriate to have a bachelor/bachelorette party before a ceremony. However since a bridal shower is traditionally associated with gift giving, this should be done the year of the reception, with people invited to the wedding.