How to choose bridesmainds

I chose based on the people that i felt were the biggest supporters of my relationship and the ones who have a good relationship with my fiance. I want people up there that support us both

I picked 3 of my close friends & my sister [4 total] -- my fiance only had 3 guys on his side + his nephew as the ring bearer - we didn't care about being even.

I’ve been a bridesmaid (2) and both of those friendships have run their course so when it came time for me to choose I went with family. I low that family is forever so I picked my two cousins who are like sisters to me. The only “problem” is that I live in the greater Toronto area and one lives in Windsor, ON and the other lives in PEI. I’ve been very blessed that early in my engagement my mom paid for my cousin from PEI to fly here to surprise me for a girls weekend in Windsor, that’s when get got their dresses ordered. I’ve also been blessed to have a very close friend offer to host my bridal shower just outside of the GTA. My friend and my cousins have grown really close during the planning phase and can’t wait to meet in person.

Go with your gut. Go with someone you know can help you with the wedding. Will be okay to do what u need. Also if ur having a MOH.

Why do you HAVE to have 2? Its your day and you can do what you want. If it will be sad for you to not have all of them standing with you on your special day then pick them all!
I originally had picked 4 bridesmaids so we would have an even wedding party, but every time i thought about hanging out with 'my girls' i had 5 girls in mind and i was sad that my fifth girl 'hadnt made the cut' so to speak. So i talked it over wth my fiance and invited her into our wedding party. I immidiately felt like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders that i didnt even know was there and knew it was the right decision.

A lot of this is going to have to follow your 'gut' instinct. For me, I pictured the people that I wanted to be with me the morning of. Who I wanted to be there to be excited with me.
I then thought of the people who would be reliable and available to be there for the things I needed: Engagement Party, Bridesmaid Dress shopping, Bachelorette, etc.

For the people you don't pick you can always find other roles for them.. such as a reader during the ceremony. Pick people you know are going to be in your life for a while.. they'll be in your wedding pictures!

That's a tough position to be in. I have 2 sisters, one sister in law and 4 best friends but my groom only had 3 people to fill his side of the wedding party so I just stuck with my sister and sister in law and will just enjoy the company of my best friends.

You guys are all so awesome! Thank you for you advise I think I have made my decision. Thank you!

I agree with everything that has been said so far. You have to choose based on how you feel. Uneven numbers are completely ok too. I'm sure each girl would be honoured in some way if you asked them.

I have 4 and very few female friends. my best friend is my maid of honor (and there are no other best friends even close). then my sister, my sister in law, and a good friend who has been married to my longest standing friend for 5 years. i just chose who came most naturally to me and who i knew would be in my life in another 10 years.

if you're set on only having 2, i'd suggest asking the others to participate in another meaningful way in your day. suggest they come get ready with you, or be ushers at the wedding, or have them be in charge of the cake cutting knife after the cake is cut.

Your sister for sure, and chose the other based on how much help you're going to receive from her. There have been lots of post about bridesmaids that have done absolutely nothing for their bride. I would find out who would have a bridal shower for you, and who be your right hand, go-to person when you need help.

If you are only choosing 2 to keep the numbers even, that shouldn't matter. Have all 4 of them! We are having uneven numbers in our bridal party (I have 6, he has 4). I wanted all of my closest girls to be included. I have been to weddings where the numbers are uneven and it still looked good in pictures.

I would pick whoever you feel closest to and whoever it would make you happiest to have at your side. But you can always try to find other roles for people, something like an MC for the evening.

I don't think you have to choose only two unless you're set on having equal sides. I would say sister and oldest friend if you're only going to do two. As long as she is dependable.
Is there another role for the newer friend? MC or doing a reading?

It is your special day, pick the people that mean a lot to you and will be there to support you on your big day and all the events leading up to it.
Don't be afraid to have an odd numbered bridal party either. Do what is best for your big day