How to avoid family drama on the big day?

I just had to tell my uncle he wasn’t invited because he said he told my sister that he would hit one of our family members. I was weary about inviting him before I heard this.. anyways he blew it way out of proportion and basically gave my cousin a death threat and said he would find my wedding and crash it.. sooo yeah. Go with your gut!! I’m dealing with all this drama now, but I could only imagine if it were to happen on my wedding day. If you don’t see yourself having a decent conversation with your sis in law, then don’t invite her. It is YOUR day. She can get over it

If it’s were me, I wouldn’t invite her. But I understand that especially with who she is, that would be hard to do. We recently had to take my aunt off of our guest list due to drama she has been causing and things she called me in a message.
Because you most likely can’t get away with not inviting her, I would talk to your fiance’s brother and let him know your concerns, and make sure he agrees to watch her and monitor her behaviour. If things go south, you could always ask them to leave.

I have a sister in law, who I (and the rest of the family with the exception of brother in law) can’t stand. We are not a big party either, so there is no way to avoid her. My fiancé and I have come to the decision to have her escorted out if she becomes too much of a handful.

I know this may not be as helpful considering there is a child involved in your situation, but you should not have to run from her on the day of your wedding.

Why not get your FH to have a talk with his brother and have her on her best behaviour that day. She ( brother's wife) should understand this is your day and be respectful.

Talk to your MIl and let her know that she may act up and your worried about it. MIL can talk to her other son and let him know to control his wife. All this to avoid her BS and no drama.

Good luck and hope all goea smoothly.

You can always just block yourself from seeing someone on Facebook while still being their friend, I know it's a little to late now but it has saved me in the past

I'd agree with the advice here: ignore her BS, appoint someone in the wedding party/your family to be the designated handler (they can keep an eye on her behavior and keep her at a distance from you, if necessary) and enjoy your day!

I think you just need to keep your distance and be civil. She and you are part of the same family now so you will have to learn to be around one another. I agree with everyone here who has stated that you should just ignore the BS she is bringing.

Your wedding is about you and your FH. Focus on the love and excitement and ignore all else.

I would do your best to focus on the positive things for your wedding day, maybe have a family member or someone who wouldn't mind escorting her out if she does start to cause problems on your wedding day? I have talked to the best man and my FFIL to ask if they wouldn't mind escorting people out if they start to cause problems and they both had no issue with that

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I totally agree with Holly here. Don't give into it. If nobody pays attention to her stories and lies, she'll just look petty.

I’m not sure but are you telling people about your plans? Is this how she found out about all of your ideas? I’d say if that were the case I would stop telling anybody about anything and just let them all be surprised at what a great wedding you’ve put together. Let’s face it your stuck with her in your family. Try and be polite but at the same time distant. As much as possible do not make eye contact unless you are trying to be polite. If you get what I’m saying. It really sucks that this has to be this way. Good luck.
We have our own family craziness. My fiancé’s brother and wife are coming from Florida. Every time they’ve come to visit we get to see them for something like 20 minuets. Then off they go. It will be interesting to see if they can touch out four hours at our wedding lol

My fiancé and I also do not like his brothers fiancée. She has tried to cause drama and even went to the length of telling everyone I was rubbing my engagement ring in her face, which belonged to his Nana before she passed away early last year, she told them I was trying to make her jealous. Which is a complete lie. Then she started causing date and venue drama. How I dealt with it was just ignoring her. Everyone knew the truth and no one fell into the drama luckily. Once she realized how petty she was she eventually backed off. The more you give into the drama the more it will feed it. So as long as you just do you and forget about all the BS it will eventually subside and she will realize how pathetic she is being. Good luck!!

Oh boy, that is a tough one. If it were me I would enjoy my day and not worry about any drama with her, give her no reaction and she shouldn't keep going. I am in the same spot with someone else and my thoughts are, if they decide to make a stink on my wedding day, that's making them look like the bad guy, not me and there will be many many witnesses to see through their bs. I know that isn't much for advice, but I hope that helps!