How are you dealing with save the dates and Covid?

I planed to have a small wedding before covid. It was supposed to be 35, now its 50. Our date is April 30th. We decided to go ahead with everthing and try not to think about covid. If we get close to our date and things arent better then we will reschedule our reception. I sent our save the dates last week.

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Thats kind of how I feel, except my fiance and I said regardless of guests we will be getting married on our date, provided our parents can be there. While we really do want all of our close friends and family to witness our marriage, we just are beyond ready to get married and will not postpone our ceremony. Our big party on the other hand....that will happen at some point when we are allowed to celebrate and dance with everyone

I was too excited about our wedding to hold off on save the dates. My fiancé and I sat down and selected the people off our guest lists that we couldn’t imagine our wedding without and sent them our Save the Dates. They were all so excited and I enjoyed getting messages from them.

If we can not have these few select people, we will postpone our wedding so we did not feel the need to include a disclosure about COVID
We will send the rest of our guests invitations early next year

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No way!! Congrats to you too!!

I think my concern with sending them to a shorter list is that our venue is a private property so for example our current allowed limit is 25 people. Last week it would have been 100. So I really have no idea how many would be on our shorter list. Both of us come from huge families (aunts/uncles/cousins) that we are close with. We have a guest list of just over 200 but cutting it down to even 100 is hard for us because our families are so large.

I am going to wait it out until likely early January to see what to do with respect to save the dates. We may end up forgoing sending them out if everything is still very uneasy (even though we have them already...).

I agree we will make our best guess in March when we send out the wedding invites.

Kaitlyn, we have the same wedding date, congratulations!

We just ordered our save the dates and are going to send them out shortly, but to a shorter list of people. That way, we aren't obligating ourselves to an expanded guest list (120 people) but will ensure that those we definitely want attending know our date ahead of time. We'll make the final decision based on what is allowed in March prior to sending out invitations.

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Exactly how I feel! I am going to send out save the dates early next year - Like January 1 lol (we will see what covid is doing at that time), and then we will see closer to the date what we will do for invites.

View quoted message I feel the same way. Super excited and sad at the same time haha. My wedding is in early June with 250 guests, and I'm thinking of sending out invitations in February. This will give everyone enough time to prepare, and hopefully figure out what restrictions will look like at that time! All the best!!

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No, this is our original date....

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Thank you everyone!! I will hold off for now - I think I am just so excited and since we got engaged right before covid hit and haven't been able to celebrate with our friends and family, I really wanted to do something to get people excited....I am so sad COVID has stolen so many wedding experiences from so many of us.

As someone who sent our out in February I would recommend waiting. Less than a month later we were locked down and stuck at home. I truly wish we hadn't sent them because reaching out to everyone to let them know our plans changed was so stressful.


If I've learned anything this year it is that anything can change at any time, which is why I would hold off.

I'm doing A right now through what's app. But my guest count is only 80 for July 2021. There's only a date on it and invitation to follow, so my assumption is people will be looking out for the invitation closer to. If covid is still around only those with specifics venue details would attend. Maybe since you have more people I would do B/C hold off as long as possible except for those who would have to travel or otherwise have other plans

I’d hold off on sending them. You’re still about nine months out so you have time to wait and get more of a feel for how COVID is doing closer to your date. As others said, maybe wait until the new year and reassess

I personally would hold off!
This weekend taught me that anything can happen, even if you are 1 week away from your date.
If I were you, I would wait until the new year but I would let my guaranteed guests know the date and plan!

C hold of. Just in case. thats what we are doing. Book everything, let the "have to be theres" know and then closer too send out either the "covid list" invites or "regular" invites

Is anyone travelling from far away? If not, especially if no plane travel is required, I'd hold off for a few months, at least until the fall is over.

If your original day isn’t until late June, I’d hold off until January before sending anything out. Once you get there, you’ll be able to project what will happen a little better

Hold off entirely. So much can change between now and then.

I would hold off as long as possible (maybe aim for 6 months before?) but make sure close family/friends that will definitely make the cut know the date. If you do decide to send them out now I would definitely reference covid as you have above.