Honouring your mother

Your dad should walk you down the Aisle. It be one day I am sure your Mom could understand he is still your dad and he should have that memory of Walking down that new Journey of your new life. One day out of many isn't asking a whole lot. Your mom will have plenty of days with you.

I feel that dad doesn't get a whole lot to do in the wedding. Mom's get to help with dress, and decorations. Your dad really gets one job and it is to walk you down the aisle. Your mom should completely understand. She will always help you in around be opportunities in your life!

View quoted message That’s not a bad idea at all! thanks!

What if you pulled a Meghan Markle and switched it up half way down the aisle? You could have both parents walk you till the half way mark and then your mom could sit and then your dad could finish the walk and then give you away?

I don't think that would be unreasonable

I have a similar situation. My stepdad is my dad. He has been around most of my life. However my mother and him have recently split.

My mom doesn’t want him to walk me down the aisle.. she wants to do it. But she refuses to walk with him. (things are nasty between them)

I know it would hurt my dad a lot to not allow him to walk me down the aisle.

I think I am going to have my dad walk me down, but then when we get to the end he will give me a hug and sit. I will then have my mom stand and speak for the “giving away” part.

I am hoping this will make my mom feel as if she has her special moment too. And she will be giving a toast at the reception.

You can have your dad walk you down halfway by himself and then your mom (or vice versa). Or walk with both of them and then maybe have both a mother/daughter & father/daughter dance.

I have a closer relationship with my mom and stepdad than my dad. They both will walk me down the aisle.

i understand your situation totally. Sadly my dad won’t be at my wedding as he and my mom do not get along at all. They can’t be in the same room together. My mom raised me solo most of my life until my stepdad came into our lives.

hopefully your parents both understand and respect your wishes!

Well it's 100% your decision. I actually think it's very unfair for your dad to say he wants to walk you down solo. Regardless of the relationship with either of them, it's not his or anyone else's decision. I had a very good upbringing with both of my parent's, they didn't get divorced until I was 21 and I still have relationships with each of them and they are amicable and I'm also thinking about having them both walk me down. I found there are so many ways the dad gets honoured (the walk, the dance, etc.) and nothing for the moms and she's my best friend. You can follow traditions and still put your own spin on things, but ultimately it's your decision. I wouldn't worry about hurting anyone's feelings. The way I kinda see it - someone would only get hurt by feeling left out, not by sharing the spotlight.. and if he really did get upset by that to the point that it affected your wedding in any way or your relationship, well then...... I have nothing nice to say - it's not like you're telling him you don't want him at all.

Thanks girls! i am definitely leaning towards just telling them that I would like them to both walk me down!

I agree with Bianca! I know its hard to tell them what you want but ultimately its your day and not about them its about you. If you want to walk with her then do it. If you want to do a special dance with her then I would to. Or have dad walk to a certain point and ahve her go the rest.

Could you have your Dad walk you down the aisle but your Mom step up at the giving you away part? (If you are doing this). Otherwise I like the dance idea.

Do you want your mother to walk you down the aisle along with your father? Look at what you want and decide from there. If you're not keen on her walking down the aisle with you two, then you could have a special mother-daughter dance during the reception, or make a really special shout-out to her during your speeches.

View quoted message Yes the plan is that he will do daughter/father dance.

Thanks!

I think the best work around would be to walk down the aisle with both parents. Your Dad will get the Father & Daughter dance all to himself anyway right?

If your Dad's not budging or he refuses to walk down with you and her, then maybe you could include a Mother & Daughter dance as well?