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Curious September 2020 Alberta

Honeymoon is actually a family vacation??

Slma, on September 2, 2019 at 10:41 Posted in Honeymoon 0 16
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Hello. My fiance and I have lived together forever and have 2 kids: 4 and 10. We aren't having a registry (because we don't benefit from this) and are instead opting to request that anyone wishing to give us a gift donate to our honeymoon fund instead. I don't think is unusual, however our honeymoon is really more of a family vacation because the kids are coming too. Our plan is to road trip through Wyoming, Utah and California for 3 weeks. Gifts would go towards things like Disney tickets, gas, camping fees, etc. Is this weird? How do you think people will react to this? What's the best way to advertise this?


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Latest activity by Ashley, on September 23, 2019 at 15:45
  • Ashley
    VIP August 2020 Ontario
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    I think a lot of people are doing this now a days! i thnk its great. like how many toasters do people really need lmao!!

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  • Danielle
    Frequent user July 2022 Manitoba
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    I don't think it's weird at all! FH and I will (hopefully) have a two year old when we get married so we might do the same thing. As far as I'm concerned if you're giving cash as a gift it's none of your business what it's used for. It might be nice to hear later that they took all of the money and went on a trip or bought a house, but I honestly don't give a rip what people do with a cash gift from me. I'm not going to give a different gift just because I hear the recipient is buying a quad instead of honeymoon extras. 🤷🏼‍♀️
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  • Danielle
    Frequent user July 2022 Manitoba
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    I don't like this one for one reason only: the last sentence is repeated and I think that's a little awkward. Then again I also don't bother writing "happy birthday" in a card that already has a message that basically says the same thing.
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  • S
    Curious September 2020 Alberta
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    I like that yours is written as if coming from your MIL. Wish there was some way to do that with mine, but it's not for a shower, so there isn't anyone else hosting. I just googled and there are so many. This is the one catching my eye right now. I'd rework some of the stuff in the middle; it's a bit wordy. It also doesn't specify one way or the other what we're using the money for. Which I like.

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  • Casey
    Master October 2019 Ontario
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    That is so cute that he is super excited!

    The one that she used was "We know its not tradition, its not the way its done. But instead of a toaster, they'd like a little fun. So if you'd like to give a gift, to help them celebrate.. some help towards their honeymoon, they would appreciate"

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  • S
    Curious September 2020 Alberta
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    I think it's becoming more common too. When my cousin got married she asked for donations to go towards a home renovation and I don't think anyone batted an eye at that. We were just happy to help them out with what they indicated they needed. I actually think a familymoon is probably less weird than a home reno.


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  • S
    Curious September 2020 Alberta
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    That's true. I never thought about it that way. The wedding is to celebrate the whole family, not just my fiance and myself. The kids are just as invested as we are. And they're thrilled. My 11 year old son has all sorts of questions and input. He's more excited than I am. So it wouldn't feel very good if we went on this trip to celebrate the marriage without including the kids! I'll have to google one of the poems you suggested. Which one did you your MIL use for you?

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  • S
    Curious September 2020 Alberta
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    It is a bit weird. I agree. But unless we take them, we don't go. Which I think is something our friends and family will understand. And ultimately, if they decide they don't want to provide a gift that isn't being used for a traditional honeymoon, that's fine. We'll do the trip with or without financial support. But it would sure be easier with a bit of help Smiley smile

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  • S
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    Never heard the term family moon before, but it's perfect. I love it.

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  • Tori
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    A little weird - but not something I would be upset about contributing towards if I were a guest. (Weird because a honeymoon is meant for just the couple and I would think you would leave the kids behind.)

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  • Rayanne
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    Not weird, I would be totally fine with whatever you want to spend money on that I would give you for wedding it would up to you. I think most people give cash gifts (especially if you've been together forever and if you don't have a registry) be prepared for a few gifts but I'm sure the majority would be more than willing to just give cash. Try one of the cute poems that work for you.
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  • Casey
    Master October 2019 Ontario
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    Honestly, it’s not their position to judge. This is special for your kids too, and it’s amazing that they are going to be a part of it.

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  • M
    Expert September 2019 Ontario
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    I don't believe people will be turned off by that at all. This is an incredibly special event for your kids, too. I think taking a trip as a family, to just be together, makes so much sense.
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  • S
    Curious September 2020 Alberta
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    Do you think some people will be turned off by the idea of family vacation vs honeymoon?

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  • M
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    I think a family moon is pretty special and not weird at all. We also have 2 kids and are going camping as a family right after our wedding.
    I will defer to someone else regarding how to let guests know.
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  • Casey
    Master October 2019 Ontario
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    There are quite a few “poems” that you can find for requesting honeymoon money. My FMIL did this for my shower.
    Registries are not a big thing for some people any more. So I think guests are becoming more ok with giving money towards a honeymoon.

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