Honeymoon Fund

We have also been living together for a while and like previous poster have said we are not adding anything to our card we are just simply saying that their presence is enough and if they wish to give something a monetary gift is something we would appreciate.

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Awesome, thanks for the suggestion. My aunt is a travel agent, so I might have to ask for her help. Congrats by the way

View quoted message So easy! Nope, no fee (small fee if guests used credit card for their gift but they're informed of that. I assume they etransfered - honestly only three people did this 😅 like I said - most took the hint). Same goes for booking our trip - seems to be the same cost as it would be if I booked myself. We know the agent but she works for Expedia Cruise Lines do I assume they get deals with the cruises.

We aren't putting in an extra card with our invitation, but I just put a small little blurb on our wedding website, where everyone is RSVPing. something like "Your presence is enough and we look forward to celebrating our special day with you. If you would like to give a gift, we'd appreciate a contribution to our travel fund. We can't wait go on a new adventure as husband and wife"

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I really like your idea of setting something up through your travel agent. Was that something fairly simple to do? And your agent doesn't take a fee? My fiance and I are in the same boat it seems like many of you. We love experiences so much more than things. Thanks for the great suggestion.

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Same. We've been living together over 5 years and I felt like we don't need anything, but there are some things we've added to a registry as upgrades. Newer & better quality bedding. Towel sets (all of our are mismatched), a new shower curtain, new dish set for entertaining, new cutting boards. There will always be people who will only buy a gift and I'd rather it be something we want than get our 3rd waffle maker.

We only have a few gifts listed, but also a number of gift cards and explanations of what we'd use them for... like home depot for home improvements.

Still trying to decide if we want a cash fund. For us probably not because we already have money set aside for a honeymoon and our home improvement we're asking for the gift cards.

We're also using myregistry, I like the versatility.

We're not doing a registry. My fiance and I are putting this little insert into our invitations:

We don't have a gift list for all of you too see. As we have everything we need in our home. Your presence at our wedding is a gift by itself. If you desire to give nonetheless, a monetary gift is one we suggest.

We have also lived together for a number of years, in the house we purchased, and certainly didn't NEED anything, however, we took it as an opportunity to upgrade items or get something we didn't want to purchase ourselves haha and try to avoid the risk of people picking whatever physical gift they like and gifting it - some people do not like giving cash and I had a shower where the norm is to get physical gifts. We had a small registry (used MyRegistry where you can add items or gift cards from anywhere) so on it we also had a picture, right at the top, of a little card with a silly poem saying that we have almost everything we could want and need but would love contributions to our honeymoon and who to do that through (our travel agent set up a no fee account at the agency). The majority of people chose to gift cash straight to us but I feel this put the hint out there that we prefer it, while also giving actual options to those who don't like to give cash - or want to give towards something. We managed to only get one odd random gift we don't like 🙌.

View quoted message Thank you Samantha!
That helps a lot!

We didn't want 50 people asking us where we were registered (which began happening even before we sent out the invites). So we had a little FYI card added to the invitation package that included a little blurb saying something along the lines of: "Samantha and Michael have been living together for awhile now and don't feel it's necessary to ask for gifts. The pleasure of your company on their special day is enough. However, if you would like to contribute to their honeymoon fund then they would be more than grateful."
If it feels weird to you to ask for money outright, then you could do a registry still and add things like gifts cards to your favourite stores or restaurants, or just Amazon even. One of our guests actually gave us a gift card towards a wine tour. So if there's any experiences that you your FH want to do then you can ask for something like that.

Usually the lack of a gift registry is enough of an indicator that guests should bring a cash gift but you can link to a honeymoon fund instead of a traditional gift registry.