Honey moon fund instead of gifts!

We are planning on doing a honeymoon fun as well. We are having an open bad so in leiu of people paying for their drinks we are hoping they will help contribute to our honeymoon. I think you should do whatever is best for you. Is there a website people can transfer money to so their not necessarily just giving money?

I think it is quite the norm nowadays...I've been to many weddings which makes it clear in their invitation that they prefer cash. I think it's better to state it upfront rather than have people show up with useless gifts because some people WILL bring gifts!

Hello,

I don't know if its an old fashion thing or not, but we are calling ours "wishing well" This way we are hoping people bring cards instead of gifts and we can use it towards what is needed. We are in the same boat with not needing much but a couple small renovations on our home and our honeymoon.

Here is an example I found :

""Soon we are to be Mr & Mrs
We don’t need a wedding list of dishes.
Our life together has already begun
We have almost everything under the sun:
Two kettles, two toasters, two microwaves
Though we also have dreams for which to save.
Our dream is to honeymoon in a foreign land
And walk along the beach hand in hand.
If you would like to give us a gift
A contribution towards this would give us a lift.
We like to think of it as our ‘Wishing Well’
Which will be filled with your love, we can tell!
But the most important thing to say
Is that you are there to celebrate our day! ""

I say yea tonthw idea because the space is limited and don't need to spend more than needed. The funds can help with your honeymoon as i have seen others on here do the same.

I'm curious about this as well because FH and I have been living together for four years now and our wedding is going to be out of province. I don't like the idea of spending money on mailing gifts to my small apartment... that can't fit any more things.

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Depends on the fund you use! I have a honeyfund set up where I have disabled credit card and paypal options (which is where they would skim off the top) - basically, guests can pick a 'gift' and print off a certificate for it to include with their cash or check and there's no fee. At least among my friends and family, they will like the idea of 'buying dinner/a massage/a tour' or pooling money to pay for the airfare upgrade/hotel room.

However, I do suggest also having a regular registry at one store. Put things on it that you need new ones of, or you'd like but don't need - some people prefer giving gifts, plus it gives guests options for the bridal shower (if you're having one). Plus then it doesn't come across like "We want cash!". It gives them the option.

View quoted message This 100%! I really don’t mind giving monetary gifts (I prefer to do so), but as soon as anyone specifically asks for money, it puts a sour taste in my mouth. I know this varies depending on where you live and the crowd you roll with, I just personally don’t like it.

I personally don't like honeyfunds, because whatever service you use ends up skimming off the top so you, the couple, are better off just getting cash instead. That said, it's rude to specifically ask for cash, but if you simply don't register anywhere and/or under an FAQ section on your website state "no boxed gifts" people will get the hint. You'll still get the odd random trinket from an Aunt or family friend, but you'll get that whether you register, do an official honeyfund, or make no requests at all. The vast majority of people will give cash or gift cards of some kind.

We asked for money as well for our honeymoon. There is also options to set up a registry with flight center or other travel agencies that your guests can contribute to.

I had a wedding with money gifts for the honeymoon fund. Just make sure to state it politely on the invitation. We still got a few small wedding gifts from guests.

SOOO many people are doing this nowadays. With less and less people not living together before marriage, the traditional registry items are often not needed.

We are doing a Honeyfund. I've written a blurb on our wedding website explaining why it means so much to us, and what we will be doing for our honeymoon (11-night Southern Caribbean cruise, it's our first vacation alone together and my FH's first time travelling outside of Canada/US).

I would say, look up the ways people phrase "cash gifts" in the most eloquent way, and that's it! It's becoming the norm. Plus people will probably rather give you money to get exactly what you want, than buy you a new blender or crystal decanter...

That's what me and my FH are going to be doing! I endorse it! lol

By the time our wedding shower and wedding time roll around we will have lived together for a year so we won't need much gift wise but could always use the money - especially since weddings cost so darn much nowadays that there usually isn't room in the budget for both a wedding and a honey moon!