Help?!

Whatever you decide make sure its clear to people!

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This is what I did! "We've reserved two seats in your honour."
For two reasons: 1) to let adults know that kids aren't invited, and 2) to let singles know they can bring a date if they prefer. We also added "No. of adults attending ____" so that the no kids part is even clearer + singles can decide they want to party solo.

Thank you all! This is how we've decided to word no children allowed on our invites;

"We would like for everyone, including parents, to enjoy our day with us, we have chosen for our wedding day to be an adult only occasion. We hope this advance notice means you are still able to share our big day and will enjoy having the evening off!"

Honestly...we didn't say anything. We addressed the invitations just to the parents, and on the RSVP we had a maximum of 2. We did online RSVPs where they had to choose the # attending, and we were able to set the max # for each guest.

We haven't had any issues. We figured if anybody asked, we would just tell them that its an adult only function. Most people will understand. As it turns out, most parents we know want the night off lol.

I did similar wording to Tori's and it went fine

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Thank you!

View quoted message Of course not! use it all if you want!

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I love this wording! We wanted to go the "date night" sell route as well AND it is largely due to limited space we are having adults only -- do you mind if I borrow this for inspiration?

This is the back of my invitation -

Because to be honest - I don't wanna worry about watching my words and swearing all night... especially after I've had a few

View quoted message This is exactly what we did. Just addressed it to the adults, and our RSVP cards said “ adults only ceremony and reception” right on them. We wanted to be super clear because some family members need a bit more bluntly lol

You can also include a line on the RSVP that says, "we've reserved ___ seats in your honour". If it's a family of 5 and you've only reserved 2 seats for them, the message will be clear without having to explicitly state on the invite that it's adults only. I'm putting the blurb about it being an adult event on our website rather than the invites.

All the suggestions so far are wonderful...Another thing to do is to put it on the details card (if you are having one to send with the invites) or on your wedding website.

Issuing the invitation only to the adults ("Mr and Mrs Jones") should be enough for most people. As a parent, I would never assume my children are invited just because I am.
You can also include a line about it being an adult only reception as suggested if you really want to cover your bases.

We included reception cards with our invites that said this:

We adore your children, but have limited space. Please make it a date night!

We want everyone to be able to relax and have a great time - hopefully with this notice you will still be able to join in our special day.

You can be simple and direct, something like “please join us for an adult only reception”.

You can do something also like “although we love your little ones, this is an adult only event”.