Has anyone ever been ghosted by a marriage commissioner/officiant?

I have actually heard of this happening. I’ve read stories about people claiming to be officiants, taking a deposit and then disappearing. Although you say they did not get a deposit. That’s why I was super careful when we picked an officiant and went with one that’s well known in our area and has lots of posts be reviews.

Have you not heard from her at since confirming? That seems really odd to me that she didn’t want a deposit. I would call her right away. If you don’t have a phone number that would also concern me. If you can’t reach her by phone in the next couple of days I would start looking for someone else.

Do you have a telephone number? I would try that route as its sometimes more direct.

Its super true that now that wedding season has started, vendors aren't as responsive. I emailed my caterer 2 weeks ago with some questions, and still haven't heard back. But my wedding is next year, so I realize I'm low on their priority list.

Yours is coming up though, so definitely reach out again, and when you do get a hold of her, put down a deposit and get something in writing. Basically she's not obligated until its in writing.

I'm waiting on a few responses from vendors who are taking their sweet time.... I'm not TOO urgent but it still makes me nervous when you dont hear back within a time frame... I'm not expecting immediate response but a week is way too much...

Sometimes, especially this time of year, the vendors can be delayed in responding... especially if they know your wedding is #15 on their list right now...

I would reach out again, requesting just an acknowledgement of your previous e-mail... so even if they think "they'll get to you when they have time, there's no rush...", they know you're waiting on their response ASAP.

This is why I am so concerned about our wedding caterer! We picked a menue and got a rough quote but there is no contract or deposit. They are really well known here though so I can't see them backing out or anything and they did say that the emails are what they consider contracts but.... still worrisome. In your case I would find a new one even if she does respond eventually, because that is no way to conduct business. Good luck!

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Thank you! It's totally frustrating, right? But yes, you are right, I will try to contact her once more. And if no response I begin the mad scramble for another officiant.

It's so frustrating right? But yes, I will contact her once more and if she doesn't respond then I will begin the mad scramble to find another officiant. What a hassle!

I'm currently dealing with lack of communication with our 'possible' caterer. We agreed on the menus, price etc.. but when I emailed her about a contract and deposit she never got back to us. Not to mention she always would say "I'll get back to you mid week next week" and NEVER did, I always had to email her. We really want this place because it's the only place like it near our venue but we are thinking of just forgetting it and finding somewhere else. We still have 11 months to go till the big day so we have time but it's still disappointing.

Try to contact them again, or even the company and see if that works. If not then I day hire someone else.